sooo, i need some advice so any would be greatly appreciated!
i just started this new job, not in recovery, and i dont know if i want everyone knowing im in recovery. im not ashamed of who i am or what ive been through to get to this point, however id rather not make it a potential awkward work environment. especially bc anytime it gets stressful, everyone talks about how they need a beer after a “day like this”. i dont care, it doesnt trigger me, but i just dont think i want people to prejudge me based off of this information about myself. it is a big part of who i am, but i also think i deserve to reserve it.
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Hey there,
I dont think it would be too crazy of a thing to simply say, “I don’t drink.”
Doesn’t mean you have to dive into your background about why you’re sober. You can simply say I’ve just decided to be sober from substances/ live a sober life. You can share your recovery journey when you feel it’s time with whom you wish to disclose that with.
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Hi I’d like to share something that I have heard before your journey is very important very personal but it takes people in your family of the program to help keep us sober 
maybe one day you would share your story or your thoughts with work until then if its something your not willing to share it’s ok keep shining in your recovery and keep comfortable have a blessed day 
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I keep my sober journey quiet. My choice. Like Ryan said, when I’m in a social setting that may involve drinking I just say, “No thank you. I’m not drinking.” Or I order a mocktail (very tasty). You hold the power to decide what you share or don’t. 
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Personally, I've always been an open book and every time I've went into an interview with this mindset I have landed where I was supposed to be.
It hasn't always made everything easy but has worked out in the end. I ve landed 6 figure engineer and PM jobs like this.
Twice i've not gotten a job, but it was also very obvious that that was not the job for me on both occasions...
It's also opened up many opportunities for outreach.
I respect those who keep it to themselves, that just doesn't work for me, personally.
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It makes total sense to want to protect your space while still honoring your truth.
You don’t owe anyone your full story. It’s okay to keep it simple with something like “I’m good without it” or “not my thing anymore” and leave it at that.
You get to choose what you share and when. Your recovery is yours to protect and be proud of.
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i love this! it’s really a personal thing anyways. thank you!
thank you so much!
thank you!!
My experience is that nobody needs to know. What’s to gain by them knowing? Nothing. They have nothing to do with it anyway.
As we say in AA “it’s an inside job”
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my sponsor said the same thing!!! thank you
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Good deal. Sounds like you have a sensible sponsor 
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You’re welcome of course. So here’s my experience. No one except a fellow alcoholic understands what I’m going through. So to normal folks it doesn’t make sense. Support is great, but it is not necessary for me to stay sober. Fellowship in AA and working the steps is.
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It’s all you. You don’t need to worry about anything but staying sober.
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Also, if i am practicing the AA program then it is suggested that I observe tradition’s 11 and 12. Hope this helps. Your doing great 
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Yeah that’s life ,, it’s how you plan it and making it than thinking people will be talking about it every one has his own agenda so always focus
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Stay focused
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oh yeah definitely
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thank you!!
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