Hello all I’m brand new here, celebrated 3 years of sobriety this past January. I’m currently leading a step study, (I have completed 2, through a local Celebrate Recovery) I’m trying to pick up as many tools as I can. I have a person who is struggling with alcohol, I have tried to use the tools I have but been struggling to fully grab their attention. I know it won’t work if they will not comment so don’t push it. Looking for advice on getting their attention. To start. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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Welcome and congrats on being over 3 years sober! I wish I had some good suggestions for you 
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Thank you Mandy for your response. I’m at the point where letting go may be necessary. I don’t want to. I’m the Kind of person who sees the job completely through. I struggle when I can’t get it done. I know that’s not on me but sometimes it’s a dagger. Especially when it’s someone very close to you
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yes, I went through the same thing with a friend. It sucks but there’s nothing that you can do. 
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Hi Folks, I also have a friend who “doesn’t have a problem” and he’s drinking enough beer and whiskey, that he’s gonna find that total bottom. It’s rough but I imagine he will have to feel the pain. Desperation was a gift for me. Thanx😎
Congratulations on 3 years Ben!
all you have is your story. If your friend calls you and tells you what is happening in his life, see if it reminds you of a chapter in your life. Tell him the next chapter of his own story and he may remember your predictions and come talk to you or someone else like you when his disease progresses. Be sure to let him know how much it hurt and scared you and your loved ones.
I firmly believe we can raise the bottom for our sponsees and they can learn from our pain. Pain maybe the touchstone of change/growth no one says it has to be your pain you can grow from watching me suffer I am sure of it especially if I am honest.
Man that’s a tough one, personally it took me 27 years to commit after endless attempts and relapses.
After recently learning cognitive behavioral therapy we had a class about this subject yesterday. The question was, what is the most important in your recovery 1 willingness 2 commitment 3 motivation?
I choose willingness and explained that for me without the willingness I wouldn’t have the motivation to commit.
It was a great discussion and ended up that they are all equally important and one cannot survive without the other but each person is different in which was the main factor of sobriety.
See if he is willing and why, then ask what’s motivating him and maybe one will hit a nerve 
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I’m new to this app to, so far I love it
Love your words man. That’s beautiful. The person I’m dealing with is a family member and has seen me grow through my recovery. I know that if I push and they’re not ready it will just be a waist of my time. I’ve sent them pictures of celebrate recovery (which that group is AA, and NA based, but we focus on Christ as our higher power) step study questions and been flaked on twice…. I know recovery is on your own and it only works if you’re ready. I’m nii oh t trying to push my family member but hopefully I planted a seed! Again thanks for the kind words!
Sorry for the miss language in my reply… fat fingers and little key pad don’t mix very well lol