I really need to get a sponsor I've been going thru a lot and yes might of been sober for a little over six months but I'm scared it's not going to last much longer if I don't get a sponsor unfortunately I'm not able to go to in person meetings right now and I've already asked five people and been turned down every time so far. Everything is just getting really bad lately and I don't know what else to do but to write and talk about it and see what happens
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Ladies, help your sister out
I know you said you canāt get to meetings, but that is the best place to find a sponsor.
I've been there. Your mind will play tricks on you. I play the "what if" game in good and bad scenarios alot lately. All I can say is take it one day at a time. Today I know for a fact I'm not drinking. I can't predict tmw or next week.
Meetings wernt my cup of tea the social anxiety of it all I'd rather be in bed. But if u do have the motivation hit the gym, start Journaling. Find another sober person who can relate. I have a ton of baggage I'd un load on someone if they let me.lol..I also chose to start a anti depressant and it helps. But you are human and give yourself some grace. It's a marathon not a raceš day to day.
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Download the SMART Recovery app. they have about a doze. online meetings a week or more. The method is different from AA. More psychology driven. It tends to work better with repeat offenders by means of relapse, I have found. Or do an AA meeting. SPEAK UP. Tell them you need a sponsor TODAY!
Don't fall victim to relapse because you knew what you needed and were afraid to go get it. Please!
By the way, we are neighbors. Out here in Terrell. HOWDY
You are worth more than youāre doc, donāt sell yourself short! You deserve to stay sober! 6 months is a huge accomplishment, keep it going. Just take it one day at a time! Refocus on being in the moment. You are able to breathe, you are able to think, you are going to be okay!
One thing that helps me is my list. I title it my Donāt Do It list and itās all the results of my actions from using and my Sober Network underneath. I think I got that idea from this app actually, it has really been useful. I hope this helps you.
https://www.aahomegroup.org/ has a 24 hour meeting (zoom) and tons of available sponsors. I join daily.
Another good site is Browse the Directory of Online Meetings ā Online Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Iām not in AA but am almost 3 years sober and happy to sponsor
My home group meeting on zoom is every morning Monday throu Friday 830am-945am Saturdays Sunday 9-10
Iād: 6572046389
Password: just4today
Make sure u have zoom thereās always women and men looking to sponsor ppl!
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Oh ya itās NA too
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I don't stay in Terrellš«¤
I do a lot of NA meeting online thru zoom since that's the only way I can do them right now but just having a new baby and finally being clean from meth has just started to take it's toll on me. I spoiled her way to much as a new born and now she does not like it when I put her down and for some reason the only time I feel like using again is when she is screaming non stop and I wish that was not the only time I felt like using cuz It just makes me feel like a crappy mom sometimes. I do appreciate everyone's comments everything really helped.
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I cannot be an AA sponsor, but I can be a friend in sobriety and share what's working for me. The fact is once we clear our minds, which takes work, we can absolutely be free from addiction and then in earnest build meaningful rewarding lives together as a community, and as individuals. I believe in you.
Good morning Tara, the zoom meetings are great; I travel a lot for work & have heard & learned things in some parts of the country that I hadnāt heard before; new perspectives = new perceptions; with zoom meetings you can take advantage of recovery wisdom outside of your local area & from the comfort of your home while holding your baby if necessary. I have the meetings guide app on my phone that allows me to type in a zip code & discover every meeting every day in whatever city I find myself. āBuddingā is the same process for all addictions. Be self aware and get online as soon as you become aware of your thoughts that are leading to relapse. There are people that will listen & talk to you - be relentless in searching them out & starving your addiction - after all, most of us were relentless in feeding our addiction - now we use the same passion to starve it. You can do this - you have worked hard & faithfully to get 6 months clean - you have the stamina to finish the race one moment at a time. Early on, I used the same tool on myself that I used on my children - the art of distraction. It can be powerful. It can move not only children but me through tough moments. One example I used on young children - I carried a small bottle of ācranky creamā with me everywhere - especially to the grocery store or restaurants. When my child would become irritable, crying, etc. I would look totally surprised, say to my child - āoh no, I see the crankies coming out all over youā then I took my bottle of cream/lotion filled with glitter & started rubbing it on their arms. They could move their arms about & see the crankies being removed by the twinkling of the glitter which was the entire purpose of crankie cream - a distraction from whatever unhappiness they were experiencing- generally, that was enough to get me through the grocery store or until the waitress brought food. The same thing can work for me - distract my mind on a positive activity to get me through a rough moment while I wait for a meeting, a sober friend to help pull me through.
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I have AANALive app and it's awesome theirs always meetings going on 24/7
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āItās what I DONāT DO that makes me the best mother I can beā
This has helped me, I hope it can help you.
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Iām in the Fort Worth area. I can suggest some groups and ask some solid women in my life to help.
I attend a zoom at 7:15 Eastern time from Champaign-Urbana Illinois. They are a very high functioning group and have a lot of good women there who would love to help and support you. It is my favorite group but I attend a weekly home group locally. And yes even if you get a temporary sponsor it will be very helpful. Another good way to get back on beam is help some other person. That is a great way to feel it in your marrow!
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