Help please

Recovery
#1

I have some big "traumatic" anniversaries coming up ... Jan 7th .. six years since I have spoke to three of my four children!

And Jan 9th .. my Dad's bday .. the day I tried to commit suicide by setting my house on fire .. seven years ago... And the day my oldest son stopped speaking to me ... Also seven years ago...

Then my second born his birthday is Jan16th ... He will be 20... I haven't spoken to him in six years ... So I know I just made it through the Holiday clean and sober ... But this next few weeks for me ... Is always when I run back to the boose and the drugs... Does anyone have suggestions... On how to handle or manage these stressful anniversaries??
Any advice is appreciated!!

Thanks and Happy New Year to all my Sober Friends!! :heart::heart:

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#2

Nikki, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re struggling. Do you have an AA group that you attend? It sounds like that would be a good place to start.

I’m sure that there’s a lot of painful history that brought you to this moment but now you have the chance to change things. Every. Single. Day. You have the chance to start over.

Maybe with time you can repair the relationship with your kids. I’m keeping you in my thoughts and wishing the best for you. Connect with people who support you in making good choices so you can move forward in your life.

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#3

Thank you Carolyn I appreciate that .. it's very good advice .. I am actually checking out a new AA meeting Monday ... Because I need more women in my recovery circle :heart:

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#4

Once your kids realize you are getting sober, they will come around, and you can all mend together. Please hold it together and get through this difficult month. Keep busy, journal, and your mindset will improve

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#5

Hi ! You need to go to a meeting. 90 Meetings
in 90 days find you a home group your support group Work that program

#6

Look for things to distract you journal about it meditate go for a walk go to a meeting reach out to someone

#7

You have a lot on your plate! I’m sorry! I’m proud of you for planning ahead for how to manage these difficult times. I think that’s the best thing you can do. Remember that addiction thrives in isolation, so try to be around other people-and keep yourself busy. Even if it’s something like volunteering-whatever it takes! I’ll be praying for you!

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#8

I'm here if you need to chat.

#9

God bless you💞praying for you

#10

Gaining trust with family is one if the greatest gifts it gives us. It will take some time for them to trust but try proving it’s kills but each day and when the right time comes make Amends

#11

Meetings, sponsor, good support team that has your back and my Higher Power are what keeps me clean and sober throughout my anniversary dates that aren't so good i feel you and I know you'll make it through meetings, sponsor, support team and contact numbers :muscle:t6::muscle:t6::muscle:t6:

#12

Stay sober. Let go and let God. Work on yourself. Do gratitude lists and share it someone. Helps to be grateful the what you do have and appreciate the blessings.