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#1

I have been home from rehab for about 3 weeks now. been sober for 140 days , i’m having a hard time connecting with the outside world. Any suggestions would be helpful

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#2

Got 17 days sober. And I’m having the same problem right now

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#3

Get to meetings and find the awesome sober people that are out there. I get it…34 days here!

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#4

I highly recommend going to behavioral health if you guys have that

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#5

Congrats on the 140! That’s awesome. It took me about 8 months to really figure out “connecting” with the outside world. A lot of it was going through my 4/5 and learning to forgive myself. Once I believed that sobriety wasn’t a dirty word to be shameful about it was much easier. Get involved with the local groups to you. Find a sponsor if you don’t have one. And get involved. You got this!

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#6

Hey, I know the feeling. Like an alien on another planet, but is worse because this is your planet and we’re all supposed to be humans…

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#7

Are you going to AA meetings?
Quality of life takes time.
We don't get better overnight.
It's 10 miles into the woods and 10 miles back out.
Also, nothing changes if nothing changes.

Do you have a sponsor?
Taking the steps?
Using phone to talk with people with long term sobriety?

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#8

Thanks for your reply

#9

Thank you tim

#10

Thanks Gerry I don’t feel so alone knowing other people have the same issue

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#11

Right there with you Julz :facepunch:t3:

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#12

Julz

The other thing I wanted to tell you is that I truly get it. I could not socialize with anybody unless I had a couple drinks in me. I remember those days very well. I was afraid that I would not be accepted by other people. I just didn't have much confidence in me.

Alcohol gave me a false confidence. When I was drinking it was usually stupid stuff that came out of my mouth that created more enemies than anything else.

I actually do pretty good around people without being under the influence of alcohol. I'm very much an introvert. I don't mind mingling with one or two maybe even three people but after that I'm pretty much looking for the back door. Sometimes I get invited to gatherings and I have a tendency to make up excuses as to why I can't be there.

The truth of the matter is, I don't have much confidence in myself. But when I show up there somehow or another everything just works out okay. I've learned to not put any expectations on myself or the people that I'm mingling with.

I think socializing with people outside of a bottle of booze is something that takes practice. It does feel a little bit uncomfortable at first but after a while we build more confidence in ourselves. I don't know if that helps or not.

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#13

Dave perfectly said, everything you said reminds me of my challenges