Helppp trying to get a sponsor

Recovery
#1

I know I should get a sponsor, but the process feels too much pressure for me and that person. I'm super proud of folks who do it, the group I frequent most often( and yes I hesitate to even say home group because although I frequent one the most I shop around because I'm a bit scared to be THAt tied) has amazing people and new people have even asked me if they should ask for a sponsor here and I've encouraged them and it has gone so well, so I feel like a hypocrite.

I truly believe that I am the problem and that the failure would be on my end, it wouldn't be commitment, intent, or honesty.
Are their things I should look for specifically or am I just spooking myself for no reason?

Any advice?

Thx
Dani

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#2

Great post Dani! I know I struggled with this too. Since you bought up A.A./NA, I’m going to respond accordingly.

It’s definitely us that is the problem. These feelings are mostly fear driven. Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. Fear of commitment. We allow this “irrational” fear to overwhelm and paralyze us. As you said, we (our thinking) is the problem. Recovery is a program of action. It’s going to be super uncomfortable, but you can do it. Humble yourself and ask for help. Let go of the control and let power(s) greater than yourself assist you in life. These “suggestions” all have a purpose, and will slowly transform you if you work it