Hey! The only advice I’d give is to make sure, 100000000%, that they too are fully sober. Anything less than that will take you a step back. Do you work the program or have a sponsor? Some of them say to not do anything drastic (new job or dating or moving) if you don’t have to for the first year. How much that helps, idk. Take it slow. Make it clear that you are sober and wanting to date only sober people. Do you have many sober friends? Or sober girlfriends? I’d start with that first too. Whichever way you choose, keep yourself first priority. It’ll all come together.
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Thanks Amanda, I have been doing that for the last several years while in recovery. I have been continuously sober for 7 months but in recovery for years.
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My only advice is be really upfront about it. I put that I am sober in my dating bio and it definitely weeds out a lot of people but that’s kind of the point :). Not much to add I guess but wanted to follow the thread.
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Katie! I love all of your advice, thank you so much! I really don’t have anyone sober in my life. I have been in recovery for years and feel as though I have a solid foundation but that is just for today, right? I am going to join some of the groups through The Phoenix and start there on building my local, sober community. Thanks again!
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Don't. Yourself is all you need when someone comes like that you'll know it. Relationships dependence is as devastating as a hot rail! Do you and we will all LOVE IT! 
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I agree! I have been single for years and am totally in love with myself and the life I have created through my recovery. I thought it’d be nice to share some of it with a special someone now 
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Good for you! Going on 6 years single but I was really married to blow and alcohol with a infidelity to meth. But now I only drink a little while I wrap up the healing process. I totally get it!
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One day at a time
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Love that!! Have you tried the app “meet up”. It’s not a sober app but they do have some pretty cool sober get together / activities and such. Enjoy your next chapter!
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I will definitely check that out! Thank you so much!
And if a woman like you did more than look and actually said anything I'd do the rest. But we're all cautious. James brown proved woman are why we do what we do. Say 1 word and I promise you'll have almost anyone you want. If you like something you see go for it. 1 look is all you need.. you go girl. Great now I'm by. 
I'm open to it if you are
I feel like it's all based on the person. Like, if I REALLY like someone, but they're not sober, but they support me, then I go for it. I used to want to only date sober people. But then I realized I was putting myself in a box. That's just me though. I didn't want to see people as "sober" or "not". So when I date, I just on the character of the person and if they respect my beliefs and sobriety more than if they themselves are sober or not. Hope this helps 
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New in sobriety I recomend sombody like-minded.
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GiGi, this is something to think about and be aware of. Thank you for your input!
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Dont waste your time on people who don't appreciate you.
I’m in your boat, I have no idea how to start dating.
I will pick you up at 7 and then tell you about my struggles with that Lol good luck. I have been working on loss of a spouse and haven’t dated since the Mayflower came over!
Grief work and dating have been more than I imagined