Hi everyone, I'm really struggling today, just found out my

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#1

Hi everyone, I'm really struggling today, just found out my son is getting married today,like wow I feel the love there ,NOT im extremely thrown away and im struggling with my demons I dont want to fail over something I cant control

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#2

I know how you feel I missed my daughter's college graduation twice....it sucks when it happens but I finally had to forgive myself. I was invited but I didn't want to ruin her day so I didn't go but life gets better and kids are very resilient and they come around when we're better and that's ok. It's also ok to not be ok
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#3

Much easier said then done but try these thought patterns:

Thought Patterns

  1. Focus on what you can control, not on what you can’t
  2. Focus on what you can do, not on what you can’t
  3. Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t have
  4. Focus on the present, not the past or the future
  5. Focus on what you need, not what you want
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#4

You can do it don't give up

#5

Thank you that's very inspiring and I should be doing that but I actually am fine nothing is going to make me fail ,I've been working hard on my clean and sober

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#6

No matter how much we are mad, resentful etc We still think of our parents and wish you were there....even when the invitation wasn't open. I didn't invite my mom to my wedding either. She was in deep dark addiction. I didn't invite her and still had the audacity to be mad and sad she wasn't there.Lol I still wanted her there. :sleepy: I know it hurts right now. Idk if that helps you. I hope it does. Your kids love you even if your relationship isn't on the level of healing you probably both desire.