Hi, first time on this app. I am at home at night. I have been clean of hard drugs for 2yrs but i am really struggling with alcohol lately. I can get like 2 days under my belt and then i screw up. And its getting compulsive lately so there is no "drinking like a gentleman" as it were. I hate it. And i don't know how to get more days, I've always gone to detox to start my clean time but i don't have that luxury these days so i just having a hard time getting my sobriety off the ground!
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I know it is cliche but the only thing that worked for me was doing a.a. and working the steps. They also have easy online meetings. If you need any info feel free to ask.
Stay prayed up. I find the ability to stay sober is a blessing and it comes from pleading with God in desperation.
Welcome my friend.. The hardest of the whole sobrighty gameplan is the very first 3 years. My advice to you is to find you a meeting that you like. And you're comfortable with and ask them if they have a home group become a part of their home group and. You'll start to build a community defense.Also, you need a sponsor to whatever.\nAnd whether you're man or woman , so you man should be with a man sponsor and a woman should be with a woman sponsor.
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Good morning Desiree!
Welcome to LOOSID ! OK, you talked about going to detox, are you on a program? Everyone doesn’t believe in joining an AA program or alcoholics anonymous program. What I like about being in the program is you have structure and what to expect in meetings and you get to be around people who are like you it doesn’t matter about your social class, your work, your ethnicity, or your sexual orientation.
All that matters is that the important thing that you have in your life is your desire to stop drinking. See my sponsor every week and talk to her when I have moments of situations that would cause me to drink, is really great because outside of her being my sponsor she really has become my friend. Your sponsor should be a woman that you’ve observed for a while and see how she carries herself how she speaks and how she is and feeling as though you want what she has. My sponsor is a lot like me and that she’s very detail oriented. She’s very structured in the way that she delivers things and the way that she thinks. She has a background as a executive assistant, and they have to be really organized and on top of things. I’m a speech language pathologist, which allows me to have to be very detailed oriented and to be on top of things and kind of be like a detective and diagnosing disorders and looking for discrepancies in communication disorders. Also, you have to work on yourself outside of going to meetings. You have to read the big book, or be a part of things that keep the AA principles on your mind. One of those things is having a higher power, believe in as something greater than yourself. What I like about the 12 steps is it teaches you how to work on yourself and then the other six teaches you how to deal with other people. And working with the stubs it helps change your character and that’s really important. I also about changing your mind. Until you have a psychic change how you’re thinking about things you’re going to continue to struggle. Once you are in recovery, you still will struggle with making a choice during hard emotional moments. Is this worth losing my sobriety over?Private message me if you want to talk more about this. A lot of people in this community are very encouraging and they really want to help you stay clean and sober. The number one thing you have to remember is that you’re staying sober for yourself no one else and for no other reason.
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Welcome Desiree!!
Congrats on your clean time!! That’s amazing, and it can prove to yourself that you know you can do recovery. All you have to do is get through today-that’s all any of us have. If a whole day is too hard to think about, break the time down to say okay I’m just going to stay sober for this hour , or half hour, 5 minutes, whatever you need to make it through.
Also I found it extremely helpful to find a community(AA, recovery centers, church members, supportive family, etc) to reach out to when I felt like I was about to drink or just struggling. There are also other recovery programs if you research online.
One day, one moment at a time, and best of luck to you. I