Hi, new here as well. I just got home from a meeting. My gf called me to talk about it I thought and went on about poker and then because I don’t understand poker like she does she got crooked with me and then said anyways how was the meeting. I said it was good and then she says this whole conversation is just annoying me and hung up. Like I really want to talk to her about it and the new things I’ve learned. She just doesn’t get what it’s like I guess. And now it makes me want to drink. Any little trigger at all makes me want to drink.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this.. take some deep breaths and keep going .. please keep moving forward don’t go backwards I know it’s easier said than done!
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I’m sorry life is lifey right now. Sobriety gives us the tools to handle things when struggles come. It’s tough that she didn’t want to hear how the meeting went. Do you have a sponsor or sober network you can reach to? Not everyone can meet every needed we have. Who can you call to share your frustration with? You can share it here and you have. That is awesome. The feeling is resentment and wanting to drink. The fact is drinking or using won’t make your gf a better listener or more interested in listening to your recovery journey. It will hurt you. Today I use a tool called the 10th step along with saying a prayer called the sick man’s prayer for the person that disappointed me. The 10th step helps me no longer want to drink and helps me focus on the only things I can control and change- my thoughts and actions. Here is the sick man’s prayer from the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous
"We asked God to help us show the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, 'This is a sick man/woman. How can I help him/'her? God save me from being angry.
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Thank you both very much! 