As a person in recovery/sobriety, what are you looking forward to most? Is it being sober? Being present? Buying gifts? What?
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I’m looking forward to getting together for Christmas movies, going for rides at night looking at the lights. It’s a more humble time of year. I used to find it very lonely, but with the help of this app and the new bonds I have built. I’m feeling more prepared than ever to conquer this holiday season. My birthday is just before Christ (the 23rd) so it my FAVORITE time. I just got approved for my first apartment ever living on my own at 36. So I am blessed to have my just roof over my head 
because it’ll be my own
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Being sober is always in the forefront, but being present has taken a backseat, I’m still rebuilding relationships I’ve burned to the ground. It can feel defeating but we have to always be thinking one day at a time
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Yes, lol, but in all honesty, it's all of it. Living in the moment and being able to appreciate life as it really is. 
the things we had to do are things we get to do now. Enjoying the act of celebrating not only the holiday, but the people we want to spend the holidays with. These are just some of the things I found helpful. Hope it helps. Happy holidays.
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This is some good stuff. I'm so glad to hear this time of year is no longer lonely for you.
What's your favorite Christmas movie? What snacks do you enjoy during movie time?
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It’s definitely still hard but I think it would be cool to have a sober friends gathering with comfort holiday junk food and good food, activities, Christmas movies.
I’m a sucker for having like “10” favorite ones so I can’t say I for “number one” but I’ve always loved A Christmas story, the original one as my childhood classic, my feel good sappy one is “ The Family Stone”, it gets me every time, and for my more modern rebellious self, you can’t go wrong with Bad Moms Christmas 
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I like how you worded that, I never used to think about who I wanted to spend the holidays with, I’ve been thrown the ringer or o should say I’ve thrown myself through the ringer and my priorities have never really been where they should. Since becoming sober it’s almost like feeling things is painful. I say this because when I became sober everything I did hit my like a locomotive, which probably sounds weird. but I’m also finding it very hard to make friends or build bridges il again.
So my goal this year is to do what you said, really think about who I want to spend my holidays with and make new memories.
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Some sober quality time with family.
You should have a sober gathering. It'd be so much fun.
Do y'all play board games?
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@nick170609 it takes time. You will, slowly but surely, gain emotional regulation. You eliminated what your body had been using to suppress them. So it’s a relearning process. Honestly took me about a year to feel comfortable enough with myself to really begin getting to know others.
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Keeping a conscious contact with my God, emotional sobriety is most important. I can rest on my laurels real easily and be in a bowl of wax and wonder how'd I get here! Knowing what I know today, I can't go back!
Mostly card games, specifically Pinnacle. But Catan as well.
Reaching my potential.
What are you looking forward to most Amanda?
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Giving my daughter an amazing holiday season. Showing energy and excitement.
This holiday season is a little rough for me. My late husband became very ill this time last year, and passed away March 5, 2023.
Ensuring my daughter has a great holiday season is just my goal. Not sure how that's going to look, yet. But I want to be sure I don't seem sad in her presence. She lost her dad- she needs an amazing holiday season
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You have asked the most important question anyone could ask me.
I finally got sober when I woke up on Dec 26th and couldn't remember christmas. Or Christmas eve. Or the week before!
I was told i was fun and engaging. Just my regular self having a good time.
I wasn't really there!!
So the answer is presense. I want to actually be there to build the memories with my loved ones.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure you two will have a rewarding holiday season. Power Mom!
We'll be glad to send you a Christmas card for sure.
Sharing the gift. Helping the fellow addict. To me that is the most exciting part, taking all that filthy past and making use of it in a positive manner, helping kids grow up in sober environments.