So I’m divorced, single, no custody of my kids, live hundreds of miles from my birth family, and coming up on my first holiday alone but doing it sober. Any advice for how to get through it from those with experience? It just hit me today like a ton of bricks. Thanks.
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AA meetings?
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I agree w Taylor netting for sure if poss.
I used to wonder why when I got sober I still wasn’t invited places by friends and family. It made me low felt alone bored frustrated angry.but I started to think I let people down so much when I was using they were just afraid to have me around .I had tried to get sober a few time prior.I started to write my story again it took up time and helped me reflect on how far I came even without anyone around right there is where I learned I truly did this for me . I felt proud then I realized if I trust in my higher power to steer the ship I do better cause when I drive shits gunna hit the fan. I realized the time my higher power gave me alone I thought was a cross to bear helped me so much and when I told people what I did on that holiday they were impressed the next holiday everyone pooled together to get me to the next family gathering cause they seen the strength I had and how I under it all I didn’t use . Hope this helps my friend. Here if ya need to chat
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Keep yourself busy and get out of the house, hit up a meeting, go see a movie (or two) and find a restaurant that is open and get something yummy to eat.
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I just made it through a weekend that many from my background, celebrate-which is Diwali.
I was not feeling well.
( A cold, congestion ).
…was pretty much on my own.
I dealt with, am dealing with regret about the past and the years I have wasted.
Diwali is all about light over darkness, good over evil, knowledge over ignorance.
In the past, I was so sh-t’faced constantly that I was not present enough to pause and reflect about the beauty which Diwali is about and represents.
You are dealing with a lot, understatement.
I hope that you give yourself some grace, take things moment by moment-yes, meetings are a solid suggestion.
If meetings are not your thing…keep yourself busy, distracted with positive alternatives.
There are many-so that is good news!
Glad you reached out-because this community is supportive.
I’m sure that you will receive some great suggestions, in addition to those already mentioned-above…wishing you the best!
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Volunteer for a commitment to speak at your group or to make coffee or set up and clean up chairs. Go to meetings away in a different town call a newcomer and ask if they want to join you…. Lather rinse repeat
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Hi Bryan, all of the these are great suggestions. This has hit me hard too. We always did holidays with my exwife’s family. I do feel left out. Through this process, I have been starting new traditions. For Halloween I watched Hubie Halloween and I want to continue that. We always went other place to trick or treat. Still working on a new thanksgiving tradition. Stay strong man you are not alone in this fight.
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