Holidays can be especially heavy in recovery. You’re not weak for feeling this way—you’re human, and you’re sober in a season that often magnifies loss, loneliness, and memories. Here are some gentle, recovery-centered tips that many people find grounding during the holidays:
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Name what you’re feeling (without judging it)
Sadness, grief, or emptiness don’t mean you’re failing at recovery. They often mean you’re finally feeling instead of numbing. Say it out loud or write it down: “Today I feel sad—and that’s okay.” -
Lower the bar, not your sobriety
You don’t have to be joyful, social, or “holiday-ready.” Focus on simple wins: staying sober today, eating, resting, making one healthy connection. -
Stay connected—even when you don’t feel like it
Isolation feeds depression. A quick text to someone in recovery, a meeting (in person or online), or a short phone call can interrupt that spiral. You don’t have to talk much—just show up. -
Create a new, sober ritual
Old traditions can trigger old wounds. Try something new:
• A morning gratitude list
• A walk with music or prayer
• Lighting a candle for what you’ve survived
• Volunteering or helping another alcoholic/addict -
Watch your inner dialogue
Depression lies. If your mind says “I’m alone,” “I should be happier,” “I’m behind in life,” gently counter it with truth:
“I’m healing. I’m not alone. This season will pass.” -
Lean into your Higher Power (even imperfectly)
You don’t need the right words. A simple prayer works:
“God, I don’t feel okay today. Please carry me through this moment.” -
Remember: feelings are not permanent
Recovery teaches us that emotions rise and fall. What feels overwhelming today can soften tomorrow. Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary pain. -
Ask for help if it feels heavy
If sadness turns into hopelessness, reach out—to a sponsor, trusted friend, therapist, or crisis line. Asking for help is an act of strength, not failure.
You are doing something incredibly brave by staying sober during a hard season. That matters. If you want, I can help you turn this into a short reflection, prayer, or message you could share with others in recovery. You don’t have to carry this alone, brothers and sisters
