I knew the holidays were going to be tough. I’ve been strong with sustaining from alcohol, it’s the overwhelming family judgment I’m having a hard time with. Anyone else experiencing this? How are you dealing?
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During this season…I just remind myself that the journey of sobriety is a day by day challenge! Over time people will understand that you just don’t want to drink!
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For me the “family judgment” I came to learn was mostly in my head, and whatever judgment was “real” is their own feelings to process. I deal with it with a lot of prayer and especially the 11th Step (St Francis) prayer, try my best to seek to understand others rather than trying to get them to understand me.
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Is it that they want you to drink? My family is waiting for me to fail and then throw it in my face! I've got news for them, I have 11 months sober and I will get to 12 and then I will just smile and wave to them as I get the other months under my belt!!
One day at a time, work your program and keep repeating the Serenity prayer! You have got this!!
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I totally agree with Michael on this. This is also the way I have handled it.
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Lean into sober community. Extra meetings. Extra calls to other alcoholics. Extra prayers. Extra meditations. Extra step work. Extra readings. And trying to stay in extra gratitude.
You can do it!
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If certain ppl are harmful to you, you don’t need to spend time with them, blood or not.
You have a sober family now that is also f’ed up, but is supportive
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It’s tough this time of year. Just remember to stay grateful and keep moving forward.
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For everything bad/judgmental they say about me, if they can’t give an equivalent positive about my life, they can sod right off bc they obviously don’t know me that well. A lot of the judgements that come from others are usually not out of love, but out of fear: they can’t fathom themselves making and surviving the same choices, and instead of being empathetic to how hard one thing or another must have been for you, they instill their own fear and position into your past. So, to the tune of Frozen, Let It Go.
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Thanks ya’ll for the encouraging words!
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