Honesty
Until I got honest about my addiction to drugs and alcohol, my codependency, my workaholism, there was no hope that I would recover from any of these things. Honesty about the things that are harming us can come in fits and starts for some of us.
It starts with self-honesty, the inner knowing, sometimes accompanied by a sinking feeling, that the jig is up, coupled with the inner knowing that something has got to give, go, or change. Maybe you remember when that moment was for you. The moment that you got honest with yourself.
The other moment, equally powerful, is when we speak our truth aloud to someone else. Sometimes we get honest with a partner, another family member, a friend, a physician, or a therapist. Other times we share in a meeting full of strangers. Who did you get honest with, for the first time? It's also possible that you haven't had either of these moments of honesty yet. That's okay. Each in our own time.
Getting honest with ourselves and then getting honest with others are big steps
