It’s been challenging having a partner that still partakes in alcohol.
Does anyone have any advice as to how to deal with a partner who is still abusing alcohol while you are sober?
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I've been in the same situation multiple relationships. It usually ended up messing up my sobriety thereby eventually messing up the relationship. I lasted for almost two years in one , but she didn't drink a ton and I had a few years of sobriety at the time, do it can work in my experience, but it's ultimately unlikely to work out. 🤷. You need to do whatever it takes to maintain your sobriety. Maybe he can keep it out of your vicinity and have like a hiding spot for it. Could see if that works but if he's openly getting tanked right in front of you brandishing his drink I would personally move on. You got to think of yourself first and foremost in this endeavor. It's hard enough without someone drinking right in your face.
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Focus on you despite what he is doing. Who can we change ? No one but ourselves. Some relationships can survive when one partner drinks but you need your own outlets and supports (sober people and activities). Talking to a therapist may help as well. Wish you well!
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Your partner’s gender not clear. Just want to acknowledge and make no assumptions… 
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I just moved out and am in the process of getting a divorce. The drinking was not the only issue we have but it did not help the situation. I felt disrespected because we had an agreement that there was no drinking or alcohol in the house at all.
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Hello Erica. I’ve been sober going on 28 months. My wife of 18 years is still drinking in our house and I’ve spoken to her bout having alcohol in the house and it doesn’t to do anything about it. I’m coming to the conclusion that I want out. She hasn’t given me any support. I had to quit on a do or die situation. The best thing that ever happened to me. I seriously want out just have a sober and happy life without her in it.
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Alanon. For families and friends of alcoholics. Codependency books help too. CODA unhealthy relationship… make me feel crazy can lead me to drinking fast! I have had to learn healthy boundaries, and what is normal. It also magnifies their drinking and that stirs the pot.
Can’t control their drinking…. No one could control mine.
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Al-anon meetings
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Coda and SLAA maybe
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