Did you have to cut ties with your friends entirely, or were you able to establish new ground rules when you got sober?
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I was just thinking about this. I had to cut ties with a lot of them. The truth is my only connection with them was in that world. I still feel bad about basically having to ghost some people, but it was necessary.
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I didn’t have to totally cut ties with my friends, but our relationships definitely changed. I realized that drinkers only want to hang around with you if you also drink. They quit coming over or inviting me out with them when I no longer would participate in drinking. It became more of a part time, occasional relationship. And actually I’m good with that.
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I was able to maintain my friendships thankfully as they respect my sobriety. I have cut ties with plenty of others though including family.
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I didn't stay in touch much with high school friends when I left for college, and then I began getting sober 3 months in at college... So I made close friends with AA people, and had superficial kinds of friends on campus. Hitch-hiked home for a high school friend's wedding haha miracle made it safely. Just been getting a little in touch with old HS friends on Facebook, now in my 60s lol
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