I’m very outgoing and extroverted but still don’t have the easiest time making people that I consider friends. Picky AF I guess
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Meetings! And I’m lucky that I have two friends from when I was in active addiction that aren’t addicts and don’t use so they’ve been my rock in all of this. One of them has a mother who is an addict so she kinda gets it even if she doesn’t fully “get it”.
Other than meetings, I would suggest going to groups that have activities pertaining to your interests. There’s a great app called Meetup and you can type in your interests and it’ll give you groups in your area related to those interests. I’m in a knitting group, for example. I met my two friends mentioned above in a gay women’s group from meetup. I’m literally in love with that app and between meetings and that app, I’ve met some pretty amazing people who are supportive in my recovery.
I've started making friends at AA meetings, my sponsor is pretty cool for an old guy, I met a couple guys that skate so I am going to a skatepark with them later this week, so the meetings have helped in that regard as well.
If you build it they will come. By that I mean a puppet theater and some sort of giant gallon water bottle.
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You are not alone, A lot of us have the same hard time connecting with new friends. I’m in the same boat. This app helps, for virtual friends anyway.
Meetings obviously but I also found a lot of driven, successful people that were either in recovery or respected my recovery to the fullest in CrossFit honesty. It's intimidating at first but if you go at your own pace it's a blast and you'll also be in the best mental and physical shape of your life.
PS in your pics your blue nose looks like my blue nose in my pics, he or she is beautiful
I’m alone every day hope hear from you soon have great day
The Fellowship is amazing- some of the most authentic and beautiful people you will ever meet
Meetings seems to be the only place I’ve met like minded people.
I’m 9 months in the program in a rural area and started feeling like I’d never meet anybody for fun and recreation.
I started a hiking “club” with 3-4 members. I suppose if I exercise patience more and more social opportunities will present themselves.
As an avid pool player and owning a business in the billiards industry I’ve found my old patterns of socializing aren’t conducive to my sobriety.
I’ve had to change my definition/expectations of what being social is in every aspect of my life. Even if it impacts my business. I hope in time, by practicing patience, I’ll be able to find other avenues to meet people.
Until then I focus on the program, focus on solutions, engage with people in recovery.
I started a meet up group for sober women 
I feel exactly the same. But you’ve got one now!
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I felt this… I have no friends now
I’m on TikTok and I have an amazing recovering family so that’s how I started
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This! 200 points to Gryffindor