How did you make sober friends?

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#1

how did you make sober friends? I feel so alone in this.

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#2

Hey Kiersten aside from the usual AA you can look into joining other groups doing what you like to do. You can try. Thephoenix.org they put together sober activities it's tough but you will find your place best of luck

#3

I still have friends that drink. They just respect my boundaries and don’t put me in bad situations. It’s all about the people that care about your welfare, and want to see you be your best.

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#4

This is how you do it reach out go to meetings and leave them old ones alone at least thats what I did and seemed to have worked

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#5

Reaching out is the first step.
Sober activities is what I found, and of course meetings.
Try the app meet up (it’s for everything) and see if there’s any groups that are for you in your area! I’m always here to talk as well. Congrats on everyday you have, keep it up.

#6

I made a lot of my current friends through a running group I joined once I moved to the city.

#7

Our disease loves to tell us we’re all alone. It’s lying. Your among friends telling the truth Way to go. This app is amazing. Lots of great support whenever you need :relaxed:

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#8

You're not alone.

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#10

To me seems like no wants to help anyone. I just help people out when they need it seems to work out. I don't loan or give money tho :sunglasses:

#11

I feel it's more difficult as an adult making friends never had any issue with it growing up. But know that you're not alone I've been sober 9 months tomorrow and this is something I'm still struggling with but I keep telling myself to keep putting myself out there go to meetings and activities eventually it should just organically happen. Good luck with everything I don't have a lot of sober friends either reach out if you ever need to chat.

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#12

I have no friends period. And lost friends due to my drug use, harder to make friends with Covid.

#13

I guess my situation is a bit different. I am the only nondrinker in my family. Spending weekends at the lake can be hard. They support me and my choices but I flip from feeling “different” to fighting the urge to get angry at them. Mostly I just find myself on the back porch with the dogs enjoying some quiet time. It doesn’t make me want to drink, instead it seems to help me remember why I don’t. But I have no sober friends.

#14

I do day dates with a few of them I’ve been friends with since grade school or from when my kids were in preschool. One I met at church-also going through a divorce, like me. Some through singles groups online (including here!).
Just by chance, two new one friends not in a program have allergies to alcohol! :joy: So, pray and manifest…it will happen.

#15

Only my church friends are the ones who don't drink. But those I go to church with, I consider family. It's hard to find sober friends IMO. Don't give up hope.

#17

I’m making sober friends by going to AA meetings and talking to people… it’s working. I have more sober friends than ever.

#18

Ok Kiersten.... You have to go to meetings and ask for phone numbers... First from ladies Ok? If you get a sponsor that will be better.... And PLEASE go to IN-PERSON meetings too. It gets you out of the house for a bit. My name is Linda in over 28 years clean,.... Message me back if you want my cell number to have someone to talk to ok?

#19

I never did lol

#20

I know what you mean I have my family but some of them just don’t understand

#22

Meetings

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#23

Meditation groups (not necessarily recovery based).