How do I find a sponsor? I went to treatment September 10, 2021 (mainly alcohol) and relapsed on December 11, 2021 (with 
, not alcohol) but I stopped using again March 3, 2023. Weekends are really hard for me. I go to meetings online daily. I’m doing okay guess I’m just looking for an extra boost or something. Alcohol will forever be my first true love. But I refuse to ever pick up the bottle again. Guess I’m struggling to stay away from the white. Idk I know it’s all the same.
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Can you reach out to someone in your online meetings? Are there any local meetings you can attend?
I never thought about it cause I don’t share in the meetings yet, just listen. I hate my hometown so I only do online meetings.
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They usually say one bad habit could lead to the next ….. just take it a day at a time , if your able to put the booze down , u can definitely put the snow down , u got this , give yourself a little more credit …. Your stronger then u think
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I would get a few women’s numbers from online meeting’s. Call them and ask them how they stay sober. Find someone with long term sobriety that is active in meetings and shares there experience.
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I feel you girl. That combo was my sh*t. They are both definitely different and it makes sense to struggle with them separately. I was a heavy binge drinker from 18 (first time I ever drank) to 30, and got introduced to at 28 and it changed me whole life…for the worst. I effing loved and thought it wasn’t a problem…until it was way too late. Thankfully I quit in September of last year, and alcohol in December, but stole my whole reality from me. My boyfriend of 10 years hasn’t been able to get away from it and I don’t even know who he is anymore. He’s been arrested and in the hospital for OD’ing and still doesn’t think it’s a problem and now is choosing that over everything we’ve conquered together in 10 years. Were now having to split up all our belongings, our dogs, I have to find a new home. It’s painful. But at the same time, it’s worth it. The clarity and reconnection with your inner self, and ability to wake up and feel so dmn proud of yourself is worth it. Keep making the choice to be proud of yourself one day at a time babe:heart: I promise it gets easier:heart:
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Go to as many meetings as necessary to find someone who has what you want
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And stick with them and listening to them they're smarter than you
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Understood…. Yeah definitely reach out online in one of your meetings … doesn’t matter if you don’t share someone will step up or lead you to one
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Thank you. I really appreciated this. 
hope you are well too.
All you have to do is ask. I’ve never met anyone in the rooms who doesn’t want to help.
Good luck! You can do this.
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Hi Samantha,, I just sent you a friend request.. reach out I can help you.
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If you can FaceTime we can start the steps!!!
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Awesome! So cool to see this.
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I would recommend in person meetings. You have to create a fellowship of women around you, in recovery
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I completely understand what you're saying completely you're talking my language I'm trying to relearn a whole new thing and I'm on such high doses of meds it's going to take me a little bit to get off of them but I will kick it I always put my mind to something and I always f****** do it and this is about me so you can do it just stick with it reach out when you need to reach out I'm here add me as a friend if you'd like I don't know maybe something I said speaks to you but you're not alone and I think that's what helps me when I think about the cementable task in front of me but I'm going to do it cuz I want to live a better life I want to love myself in the mirror I want to love all parts of me the dark parts on the light parts and that's what you need to come to anyway I'll shut up I'm just I'm telling you I'm so new to this that I don't know whether I'm coming or going but I know I am going in the right direction and I'm being honest with everybody for the first time in my life
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Hit meetings hard hard reach out to others in a.a
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Google NA or AA virtual meetings it’ll take u to a list then with meetings of all the times of the day, I found one at 830 am my time in Indiana but anyway I’ve found 2 sponsors there and they’re actual real legit sponsors they do the work just as much if not more then a in person one honestly, but I’m on my second one and actually working the steps I’ve been in recovery since may 25th 2019 so it’s actually pretty huge to me anyway. If u want the zoom id for it I’ll give it to u!!
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Start participating in your own sobriety. Share in meetings even if it is just to introduce yourself. I found my sponsor in an online meeting, her energy felt right so I messaged her privately and I know some women who share to say I need a sponsor. You got this, Amanda!!
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Try smart recovery
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