How do I get rid of reservations? Like if I think this bad thing happens then I will probably drink, but how do I stop myself from doing this? Open to suggestions, thx
4 Likes
Recognize things as they are. If that thing happens, you ...MIGHT...drink. You can't know until you get there. One day at a time is what they say. Try not to worry to much about the stuff that might happen and what you might do when it dose. I know its hard, but the more wins you get the easier it becomes. Best of luck.
2 Likes
So most of us alcoholics do that. It’s called projecting, in the future if…… fill in the blank. That means we’re in the future not in the now. The solution is in the steps and staying sober one day at a time. Shut off the projector, unplug it and take out the bulb, as the old timers say.
5 Likes
The longer you stay sober the more you will want to. Reservations don’t doom you. With some program you can choose not to no matter what. I suffer sometimes and drinking does not come to my mind. But it can randomly pop up sometimes and I have 5 years.
1 Like
I would also suggest you read page 33 of the AA Big Book. The first paragraph talks about reservations. I’ve been there.
Having a drink or a drug will only make the bad things worse things
I had to learn to love the new me so much that I refuse to go back. I created so many new connections and gained so much respect, that I would never chance losing it for a drink or drug. I also definitely wouldn’t want to add the chaos of drugs/alcoholic on top of any pain that I was going through. That’s why it was so important for me to put the work in , so I don’t have to use ever again. If I choose to use over anything, it is 100% my fault .
Personally I don’t have any I lost so much getting high never in my life ever fixed whatever ever problem or depression/anxiety I was going through it never made females like me more or make me cool honestly opioids only gave me the confidence of lasting longer in bed those days are over fentanyl ended that every opioids have fentanyl I don’t want to get high anymore I hate the loser it made me I crave better
"Time Takes Time" You have to get far enough away from your last drink (or drug) before you can "Stop cleaning up the wreckage of your future" Get a sponsor and get busy putting "Pencil to Paper" and good things will come as you " Trudge the Road of Happy Destiny"
Are there any meetings that we can attend that are on zoom?
When I begin to doubt myself or something I must turn to my HP (God) from guidance. I can pray and meditate on it. Asking God to remove this reservation and free me from doubt.
Give yourself some credit here as you have the ability to be aware of this reservation. Some don’t ever see it and begin to live in fear.
My father is that type. Constantly in doubt or fear of the unknown.
If you are unable to get intuition right away keep praying and meditating. You can also turn to a trusted friend and call them. See how their day went? Ask them questions about what’s going on in their life. Sometimes when we get outside of ourselves, by helping others, we get what I call a God shot and that idea or thought we’ve been praying on comes to us.
I’ll pray that God removed this reservation and free you from doubt or worry.
When I'm projecting like this I find a quick mindfulness meditation to calm me down helps a lot. Just take a second to breathe and focus on what you can control which all ways seems to start with how you react to life's bumps in the road.
Completely surrender! Give it to your HP.
1 Like
Stay in the now. If said situation arises turn it over to your Higher Power.