I'm just looking for ideas to help myself, without pushing her one way or another. Thanks in advance.
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Try and have the
Talk about the way it makes you feel ! Might be uncomfortable but if they want you clean a sober the n support is what you need not temptations
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My husband and I are both recovering addicts & alcoholics and have been married for 20 years. He had 17 years of sobriety and I had 10 years when we married.
We both live and breathe our own programs. Sponsor others, attend meetings together and separately.
I suggest you do your program and your significant other does hers…Alanon & or ACoA. (Adult children of alcoholics) Has she shown any interest or attended any meetings, getting a sponsor and work the steps?
AA & NA guides us on how to stay clean and sober through the 12 steps and getting a God in our life. Alanon taught us how to have a healthy relationship. ie) set boundaries, detach with love, focus on ourselves, stop enabling, etc., through the same 12 steps.
Plus we each had several years of seeing a therapist prior to meeting one another and work through our own individual issues. It’s so worth the time and work. You want to be the best you can be for yourselves and one another.
There’s also a saying, praying together keeps a family together. I encourage prayer & meditation as a couple as well.
If she’s not ready yet, or willing, that’s okay. Keep doing your program & staying sober. God has shown me over & over again that He has an awesome plan.
Best wishes 
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What a great response, Kim.
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