How do we date without the drinking + night life? I know that getting a coffee with someone seems the easiest, but coffee ain’t sexy or romantic. How do you make a sober date without it becoming super casual?
Activities! Try bowling or mini golf.
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What’s wrong with casual? To me that means relaxed, comfortable, peaceful. All things that I would look for. Be yourself, nothing says coffee and an ice cream date can’t be sexy.
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Yep, activities like a hike or lunch at park, etc. Alone time with your date seems much more romantic than a party scene.
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Use your imagination, man. Drinking, ultimately, didn’t look good on me, lol. Nowadays, it’s never even a thought.
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I am struggling with this too! Haha
I would still enjoy a date at a nice “sexy” restaurant at night- just no drinking. 
then maybe catch some live music.
Better connection than drinking and hardly remembering the date or conversation the next day.
I have yet to go on a first sober date.. but I am NOT going on a hiking date with someone I barely know. Haha that seems too awkward and not sexy at all.
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Some people say they scuba dive in the the Caribbean, I prefer to climb the mountains in New Mexico to the sea.
I only date someone I know already since I care about them or why date.
Well a lot of people go on first dates to meet someone
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That’s a great question.
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Yeah, hiking with a near stranger is a no go. Reminds me of this joke:
So a guy is walking with a young boy into the woods.
The boy says, "Hey mister its getting dark out and I'm scared."
The man replies, "How do you think I feel? I have to walk back alone."
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You can still have a great dinner out without drinking.
Mmm... Coffee, during a mid-summer's rain 
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There you go
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Coffee, a movie, concert, opera, dinner, bowling, mini golf, anything. As recovering alcoholics we can go anywhere as it says in the BB. Do whatever you like, but do it sober!
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One more thing. Was told to me early on since I would ask my sponsor about everything I was doing.
Ask yourself a question: is what I’m about to do bringing me closer to or further away from the first drink?
Proceed as indicated and remember, we’re not a glum lot. Have fun!
lol what is dating?
I’ve done several first dates sober! It’s scary at first but if you get a chance to chat with them before and let them know you don’t drink, then it opens the door for other options. I’ve done a few walks/Hikes (some with, some without coffee lol) I’ve also just met somewhere just to talk. It also really heap to date sober girls obviously. Or at least ones who don’t drink. You got this!
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