How do yall cope with the times that are super

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#1

How do yall cope with the times that are super stressful? Any advice is welcome! I’m trying my hardest to stay on the right track.

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#2

Distraction for me! Also self care or indulgence like any kind of TV I want or reading, ice cream, planning something simple and rewarding for the next day to look forward to. Also meditation or Journaling if I'm up for it and facing the feels. Coming on this app. You're in the right place and I know I've gotten other stellar advice from people here!

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#3

Guided breathing, journaling, yoga. Journaling helps me so much and most my journal entries are just rambling thoughts written down, but I feel SO much better once I am done writing! You got this!

#4

Go to a meeting and listen to other people's stories. Go help people in shelters or wherever and stop thinking about yourself and your problems by helping others. You'll be surprised how getting outside of yourself that way is so helpful

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#5

I have been applying the serenity prayer to every situation that comes up... if you can't change it, accept it.. if you can change it, get to work... seems a bit simple, but it works very well for myself. Living in the Now is quite nice.

#6

I’ve been doing that. Just whatever comes into my head that is bothering me at that time I just write even if it makes no sense. And it’s helped some but I’m still struggling.

#7

This is the answer. You can always tell who’s working a solid recovery program by their answer to questions like this.

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#8

Don’t watch the news! Get into hobbies or volunteering. Keep busy! Wishing you happiness!!!

#9

It's the only thing that quiets down the noise in my head.

#10

Talk to someone.

#11

Read bible

#12

Well, I’ve been through a lot of things cancer at the top of the list alcoholism being over six years sober and a lot of other things. These are the times we have to truly accept things that we can’t fix or change and once we eliminate those off the list, it doesn’t leave very muchand I have to ask what does God have for me today cause I got a bad habit of getting involved in situation with people and I’m not even supposed to be part of that stuff. Sometimes we pick up things and carry things they’re not ours to carry, and if we can keep it in perspective and just work our recovery program there’s no reason we cannot succeed.

#13

Do something, anything for someone else. Do whatever it takes to get out of yourself. And talk to all the like minded people you can!! This too shall pass!! My prayers are with you!!!

#14
  1. Pray - especially for your enemies.
  2. Set boundaries
  3. Work on your self acceptance.
  4. Surrender- means you don’t have to fight anymore or be fearful angry guilty self pity or depressed anymore.
  5. Don’t give ur power away- you are not a victim.
  6. Take your own inventory. Look inward not outward.
  7. Remember life is not fair and it never will be.
  8. Feel Deal and heal
  9. Don’t go into the pit
  10. Let go and let God
  11. Be still and know that God got ur back. Breathe.
  12. Love your enemies.
  13. Stay in the present moment. Don’t go into the past- resentments or future- fear
  14. Keep ur heart pure.
  15. Put principles before personalities.
  16. Help someone.
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#15

Great question! Im going through a very emotionally draining divorce, trying to get back on my feet after being homeless and dealing with a traumatic event during that period of homelessness. I slipped during that but now have almost 5 months clean and sober and I try to utilize any and every opportunity and tool given to me. It took some serious humbling to get here but now i am grateful for everything even the bad experiences because they are making me stronger. I found a home groups and hit meetings almost everyday. I speak at every meeting about what's going on and i can't even tell you how free i feel because I got it out of my head, i got love and support from my family at the tables and feedback that is useful, and comfort knowing i am not alone and most important, i have restored faith in a higher power that i know has a plan for me through this. I hope you find what helps you good luck, you got this!!

#16

I prepare a plan if I know something stressful is coming up, like an escape plan or a self care reward but life throws us unexpected stress and chaos you will have to learn to deal with those as they come. Call a friend to vent, have something to look forward to, help someone if you can. It's truly still ODAAT for me. Worrying about tomorrow is a recipe for relapse

#17

Go to a meeting

#18

Excercise, most importantly realize you can’t control everything, you can only control the way you react to it. Once you realize that, give it to God and start coming up with plan A B and C

#20

In early recovery every situation was stressful
Just knowing that I am doing my best helps and remaining calm :relaxed:

#21

I focus all of.my energy on my sober routine(s). I may go out 9f my way to fill my down time. Pull up a new recipe and treat myself to a great meal or just botch a new recipe. Whatever healthy moves I can make. Catch a new meeting, drop in on a yoga class, etc etc.

Another thing we learn through AA is that when we are struggling we are very much in our own heads. Helping a fellow addict 9r even a neighbor or stranger is a great way to get beyond ourselves and derail that negative energy. Additionally it makes us feel better about ourselves. This really works.