How do you be kind to yourself and how often do you do it? How do you know when to be kind to yourself?

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#1

I got short earlier and realized it’s because I’m angry with myself, and that’s because I’m depressed that I’ve been so Type A with my career and Type B with my personal life. It makes me sad the ownership I could’ve taken sooner. I can do more going forward but each time it’ll be difficult not to remember I could’ve taken these steps earlier. Thankfully I’m not worried about going back to alcohol, but this is something I really struggle with. I want to be sure I’m being kind with myself while giving my faults their due diligence from a self improvement perspective.

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#2

Self care daily is being kind to yourself. Doing something not because you have to do it but because you want to do it. Ideally, something that brings your honest joy.

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#3

You’re not alone Shane… I was definitely Type A with my career and Type B with my personal life. I always made that as an excuse that I didn’t have a problem because I did well at work. I really do struggle with the same issue as you.

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#4

I gave myself a pedicure and painted my nails... the little things count.

#5

Totally can relate to your comment. I wish I would have taken the steps earlier and maybe I e would have salvaged a few relationships. I am hard on myself daily. Cause of that. I know it was on me why I am here and I feel depressed.

#6

I meet a lot of people that have been working on sobriety for a long time. I could only quit when I was ready and I was pretty stubborn about. I quit when my wife threatened to leave. She is not the best communicator. I think a lot about how different things would be if we talked about my drinking earlier. The bad part is that I hid the amount I was drinking from everyone. My wife left right after I made a year sober. Talk about kicking my own hiney. I am now trying to change my thinking. I stop the negative thoughts and focus on happier things. Also say ‘I get to’ instead of saying‘I have to’.

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#7

It might sound nerdy but I have a recipe card I look at every day. It’s how I find my balance. The amount of ingredients changes but mentally a reminder. My example
For a balanced me add
Family time
Workout or walk
Meditation/meeting
Work
Eat healthy options

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#8

Find things u like look yourself learn new stuff try smart recovery

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#9

I’m learning to be more Type A about personal goals. It doesn’t help that America is super obsessed with work versus Europe.

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