How do you reconnect with your adult children when they

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#1

How do you reconnect with your adult children when they want have anything to do with you due to all the pain and let down caused from addiction

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#2

Time will heal it all..

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#3

I pray it does

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#4

God. Grant me the serenity to accept the things. I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

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@rob278412 Don't force it. Attraction rather than promotion. Let them see the changes in you.
Look at the number of years of pain you put them through. It's going to, more than likely, take twice as long to bring them around.
It's like forcing a fart. You force it and you end up with :poop:

#6

Give them time to heal from their wounds

#7

Pray for their healing ❤️‍🩹

#8

Patience and time will help them build trust again.

#9

It can be a long healing process but I’ve seen great things happen for families.

Keep showing up for yourself and keep working on getting better. An apology is more than just saying sorry, it’s showing them through your actions that you’re changing. They’ll notice over time, even if it’s slow. They’ve got their own healing to do, and that’s on their timeline, but the hope is they’ll choose to heal too. In the meantime, just focus on being better and letting your actions speak for you. You made it this far and need to tell yourself how proud you are, I’m proud of you!

#10

Thanks

#11

If you are practicing a program of recovery then these things will improve over time. Just stay sober one day at a time no matter what and work the program. It will get better.

#12

Time, wait for THEM to reach out when they feel comfortable doing so .

So basically just sit and wait

#13

I totally agree with this statement. This was my experience and I now have a good relationship with my 2 adult daughters. It was more than saying sorry but my actions helped gain their trust again.

#14

Thanks so much for the advice and encouragement

#15

I'm going through the same thing. Just let them know every day that you love them and you are there for them. They will see the change in you and they will come around.

#16

Work the steps. This is a good place to come for light hearted banter amongst sober folk. It’s not the place to go for advice My opinion is based on doing the work and knowing some things will work out and everything else will work out My question is , have you worked the steps ? If the answer is no. Then making up with anyone is futile You’ll be forever drunk , even if you don’t drink. If you had worked the steps , thoroughly and honestly , you would not be here asking such a question. 12 steps, brother

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Thanks