How do you work it out when you live with people who drink everyday and night?
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I’m assuming moving out isn’t an immediate option soooo -
I’d find ways to politely create space. I’ve done this in the past.
Go to bed earlier. Wake up earlier. That right there helped me tremendously. I was in bed by 10pm & up at 5am. The mornings are peaceful & they’re still passed out. Find a place around you - coffee shop, bookstore, movie theater, diner, whatever - and spend time there reading or working on something.
Those are the first two things that come to mind.
It’s tricky but it’s possible.
Good luck!
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Thank you! You're the 1st positive feedback ever. Moving out isn't an option until I finish building my house. I love my mornings and I love to read. I have alot of anxiety being in public and on my own. I need to just deal with it
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Great suggestions Freddy. I like to Calendar a daily early morning call with another sober person in the morning.
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As time went on i used those moments to see how i used to act. It made me want to stop even more.
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It’s definitely tough! I was in a position like that surrounded by people who drank ALL the time , unfortunately I had to separate myself from those people anyway I could … and it turned out to be the best thing I ever did … as hard as it was I even cut ties with really good friends because they drank all the time but it needed to be done
Yes I think separating myself is best
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Definitely best
Depending on the climate you live in, getting outside with Mother Nature is another great way to creat some space and alone time. Ideally hikes in a park or walks on the beach are great, but if that’s not an option, just a walk outside around the neighborhood can bring you some much needed peace and tranquility.
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Yes. Love nature and hiking. I need to do more of it. Thank you
Getting up and out early and going to bed at an earlier time might be a good trick. Starbucks is open early find a peaceful one and you could read the day away. Also it’s fun people watching. The library for me was a safe comfortable feeling. If you can work a different shift to avoid people that’s what I did.
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Kellie, often people in AA live with or are married to active alcoholics. My sponsor took me to a Alanon meeting. Alanon is for everyone who is or has lived(ing) with active alcoholics. It can give you a healthy new understanding and boundaries for dealing with your cohabitation partners whom are still drinking. Alanon gave me the freedom to let alcoholics hit bottom. To allow their insane active drinking to remain with them. I gained a ability to see really unhealthy behavior as sick and unhealthy. I also didn't have to try and carry their "load". The alcoholic's mess was their's alone.
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This is what I need! Thanks you so much David
I hope you find your solace despite your current living conditions. You deserve it
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That's my goal. You're awesome! Thanks so much!
You asked politely not to drink in front of you . You try and find things to do sober with them. And if not, you go and find other activities while they drink to keep your mind off of it.
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I would seriously look for another place
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That’s a hard one try to limit your contact with them as much as possible go to a lot of meetings and try to remove yourself from that situation
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100 percent agree with this. It turned me off drinking more when I saw the behavior and would remember my own
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Well I had years of sobriety before I could be around people that drink I have to worry about my own recovery. I am dating a lady that does drink now but is very respectful of my recovery. She does drink in front of me but I don't let it bother me when she's drinking coffee water or a beer it's about my recovery not hers.
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