How does one get past the feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop? Things are going pretty good for me and I don’t know why but it’s starting to make me nervous. I’m doing all the right things. Yet there’s a part of me that’s scared with me doing the right thing for myself. It’s almost like it’s too good to be true. I don’t mean to be so nervous. I just don’t want anything bad to happen. Any tips?
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Hey Rachel
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Enjoy your new lifestyle choices:)
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Don’t be scared it’s only progress to a better lifestyle that is new, it will get easier as you continue in recovery and hitting a daily meeting and work them steps throughly. ODAT
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Hey, honestly reaching out and talking through some of your fears and reasons might help, make sure you take time to center yourself, stay in the moment or where your feet are, and work on some kind of spirituality, the faith of something really helps
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Definitely do what you feel is best weather it’s spirituality, a yoga class or a meeting. It’s all fruitful things for your soul.
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I appreciate the reminder. I will definitely try to imply it more in my life.
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Staying very present in the moment and taking account of all of your current blessings really helps. Stay out of the fearful future.
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Rachel, this is very common. Most all of us go through it. It’s called serenity. It makes us nervous because it’s foreign to us. “Easy does it” as we say. Life in sobriety is good when we’re doing what’s suggested. It just takes a little getting used to 
Practice gratitude for all that’s going right.
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I read all the other people's responses, before putting my two cents in; and so I wouldn't be repeating what somebody already said;
I feel that too, I felt that before and not just in sobriety;
when everything is going so good, and I'm worried that the universe will figure out some way to f*** it up;
it still might happen sometimes; like, a job...or, it's happened with women that I talk to about getting together, and it's going to be so amazing; potentially for both of us; these new experiences that they will have; for the first time in a long time they will feel comfortable respected and safe; but alot of them freak out (I'm guessing, because I can't always tell why they don't message back, after we had such profound conversations)
When approaching that amazing first innocent "coffee" date;
they go silent at the last minute.
But I digress;
I'm talking about the amazing happiness I'm experiencing single! that I haven't felt since I was in my twenties. Oh my solution? I just find new adventures and challenges every day to take on...but I still relax a lot like I'm doing right now;
So, I think the more things you find that you enjoy, that take the place of old or "bad" things;
When you're busy doing all that and relaxing a lot better, you won't have as much time to think about feeling scared
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"The Promises" outlined in The Book are very real. It is sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly.
This doesn't mean life won't happen. It did for me. Death, Divorce, VERY BAD Health (amputation & kidney failure), and the kist goes on. I didn't pick up a drink, nor any dry goods.
I got through these events, bad and the good, working with others, being of service, praying, reading The Book, and all the other actions that long term continuous sober people do. I want what they have, one day at a time.
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I’ve been here before. This is self-sabotage. We’ve struggled for so long that sometimes we don’t even feel worthy of good things, but that’s a lie.
Don’t overthink it. When those fears creep in, shut them down. Remind yourself—you’re not gonna fear what’s ahead. You’re gonna keep walking, keep working the process every step of the way . If something happens, it happens. You’ll face it head-on because you have the tools to get through it.
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I gave up on the so-called "sober" date app; fake experiences were unbelievable. Won't waste more time space money or energy on that, or things like it (yeah right, that's what I USED to say about other addictions, but no more)
I was looking for, something on a deeper level anyway; when it happens, it's never been from someone on line, well,... not yet..but on here, feel free just to share you're
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"Femenenergy"
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In other words it's really good for me to have female friends too, for me to express my feminine energy and other things that I don't always share with guys; more emotional vulnerable type stuff.
There are other guys who are great for that too though
We're certainly not all emotionally unavailable
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Okay so my saying about quitting social media, ironic. But this platform is a little different, and I don't have to do anything!
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What does "waiting for the other shoe to drop" mean?
I mean, I know how the terms been used. It's one of those things where the term doesn't express the depth of the situation that it represents;
Kind of like "shoe gaze" (dream pop/psych) music, the music is so much heavier than the term seems.
Like I’m waiting for something weird or bad to happen.
Well I kind of knew that but I thought since it could be vague, I'd ask anyway.
People say, let's not ruin how we feel today by worrying too much about tomorrow (what may or may not happen). I think I'm getting better at that; and my anxiety is not anything like it was when I was on meth;
I hope your life is feeling better that way too.
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typing, retyping voice to text, autocorrect, typos butchering my messages, having to go back and fix everything like I'm doing right now, it is such a mind "blank"! it is not good for me.
Any suggestions for how to get off social media? That is so ironic!
I'm kidding, sort of. But seriously, spending mind racking amounts of time on one message, because I can't type a million miles per hour like kids can, it's taking its toll