How does one get past the feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop? Things are going pretty good for me and I don’t know why but it’s starting to make me nervous. I’m doing all the right things. Yet there’s a part of me that’s scared with me doing the right thing for myself. It’s almost like it’s too good to be true. I don’t mean to be so nervous. I just don’t want anything bad to happen. Any tips?
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Hey Rachel
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Enjoy your new lifestyle choices:)
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Don’t be scared it’s only progress to a better lifestyle that is new, it will get easier as you continue in recovery and hitting a daily meeting and work them steps throughly. ODAT
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Hey, honestly reaching out and talking through some of your fears and reasons might help, make sure you take time to center yourself, stay in the moment or where your feet are, and work on some kind of spirituality, the faith of something really helps
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Definitely do what you feel is best weather it’s spirituality, a yoga class or a meeting. It’s all fruitful things for your soul.
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I appreciate the reminder. I will definitely try to imply it more in my life.
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Staying very present in the moment and taking account of all of your current blessings really helps. Stay out of the fearful future.
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Rachel, this is very common. Most all of us go through it. It’s called serenity. It makes us nervous because it’s foreign to us. “Easy does it” as we say. Life in sobriety is good when we’re doing what’s suggested. It just takes a little getting used to 
Practice gratitude for all that’s going right.
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"The Promises" outlined in The Book are very real. It is sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly.
This doesn't mean life won't happen. It did for me. Death, Divorce, VERY BAD Health (amputation & kidney failure), and the kist goes on. I didn't pick up a drink, nor any dry goods.
I got through these events, bad and the good, working with others, being of service, praying, reading The Book, and all the other actions that long term continuous sober people do. I want what they have, one day at a time.
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I’ve been here before. This is self-sabotage. We’ve struggled for so long that sometimes we don’t even feel worthy of good things, but that’s a lie.
Don’t overthink it. When those fears creep in, shut them down. Remind yourself—you’re not gonna fear what’s ahead. You’re gonna keep walking, keep working the process every step of the way . If something happens, it happens. You’ll face it head-on because you have the tools to get through it.
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Like I’m waiting for something weird or bad to happen.
Maybe try and provide yourself with other things to do other than social media. Like reading a book, journaling, puzzles, arts and crafts. I find great options on Pinterest.
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Brad and Rachel make great points. I'm proud of you for the work you've already put in, you're doing fabulous🔥! What type of interests do you have? Is there anything you're interested in? Keep your mind focused on what you want to do and accomplish. You're slaying the hard part, start exploring your interests. You'll be amazed how well that helps. I run, journal, hike, study Spanish, and read as my main hobbies. Find enjoyment in activities, and the dread will lessen! You got this!
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@rachel318272
CONGRATULATIONS on your 91 days of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
We've all experienced what you're going through. It's called life.
In all actuality the promises of sobriety are starting to come true. They clearly state that you will know a NEW FREEDOM and a NEW HAPPINESS.
Keep up the good work.
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What we fear we attract. We must make our days great by our own directive. The feeling that you do not have control is an illusion. The world doesn't run you. You run it.
Hope this helps
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That is so true Peter
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Dang. You said it better than I ever could. That’s how I feel. I’ve been sober for quite some time and feel on edge everyday. Idk why. I wish I could put my finger on it.
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If you look up Annie Grace & her books, then she can help you learn to trust yourself & have the confidence to take on life without that feeling of dread
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Fear was all over my fourth step. I learned there's basically 2 kinds of fear...
- Fear of losing something I want or think I need
- Fear of not getting something I want or think I need.
This not only applies to the material world...it could be recognition, love, affection, friendship, the promotion at work, the used car someone else might buy before I get my next check and have enough to pay for it.
Losing a friend who relapsed and might not make it back, fear of not being good enough, fear of failing, fear of success, fear that I'm not good enough, fear that I'm not gonna make it. Fear that there just aren't I can accept right now. Fear of making mistakes, fear of feeling. Etc etc etc. I've also learned that my best weapons for fear are faith and trust in my higher power and the process.
Love...love that inspires me to strive to be the best version of myself and love that allow to dictate my values, and priciples, love that drives me to live at peace with the world and all the people in it. Love and faith that help me make the right choices today, and lovebthst allows me the grace for myself and others to be imperfect and fall short....love that inspires me to reach out to the next person in recovery whether to support, validate, guide, provide a shoulder or an ear or a simple cup of coffee telling corny jokes with another woman walking the same path. It took me quite a few years to navigate anxiety and fear. You will, too. Reach out if you need a friend... today I live faith, hope, and love..
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