How has your love life been impacted by your path to and through sobriety? I find it to be increasingly challenging.
I was married already. The last year has been… difficult to say the least. But with time and a lot of talking the trust, and love is coming back.
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Same boat as you Tim. I completely wrecked my marriage with my addictions and behaviors. 9 months later we are working thru the process is f healing. Sometimes I feel we are making lots of progress, however, there are times that I wonder if we can really work thru this. Regardless, we have a better relationship today and Han we have had in many years.
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Thank you @soberinsoflo125132 and @tim133688, for the past 2.5 years, I’ve been trying to navigate through loneliness and this feeling of being on the outside, looking in, and looking for ways to relate to others. It’s been strange.
Do you mean, Jonesy, that it’s tougher since sobriety?
I’ve been lucky enough that despite the BS I put my BF through my active addiction and then rehab, my BF stood by me. Even so far as to not even drink at all during my first year of sobriety. After a while, I would push him to drink because I didn’t want him to feel as though he “had” to not drink around me because of my problems but he ended up feeling as though he didn’t need to and he’s still that way to this day. 
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I find that it’s difficult to be accepted because there’s a sort of stigma about my recovery. Often times, I don’t feel as though I belong here or there. There have been extensions of support towards me — to join fellowship groups and bond with others in recovery — but, that isn’t my lifestyle. I’m not used to having support and/or so much positive reinforcement, faith, fellowship, or prayer; it’s a deterrent for me.
Thank you for sharing, and I’m glad you have such a supportive partner. I can relate to a degree, I had a friend that I’d meet for breakfast/brunch/lunch and we would have a few drinks while catching up on a Sunday morning. After an inpatient stay, she felt she couldn’t have a drink in front of me, but I would always insist that my changes are my own — and nobody should shy from what they want to consume.
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Relationship wise, yes, things are okay. But friendship wise? I honestly don’t have many friends after everything that happened, they all disappeared. So in that aspect, I do feel a bit of loneliness because as much as I love my BF, I hate always being around him. 
We already live together but to constantly do things together? It gets to be too much. I miss having people that I can have fun with — despite not drinking this go around. Lol.
Is the online thing better?
MY JOURNEY, WOW WHERE WOULD I BEGIN...THE QUALITY IN MY LIFE THAT HAS CHANGED MORE THEN ANYTHING IS MY GRATITUDE and LEARNING BOUNDARIES!!! WOW ARE BOUNDARIES HARD I AM CODEPENDENT ALSO WITH SEVERE ABANDONMENT ISSUES...BUT I AM PROUD OF MYSELF TODAY AND WORTY Of MY RECOVERY
I honestly do not waste 1 second on anyone who doesn’t completely embrace my sobriety. If they don’t get it, I move on. I spent so many years settling for whoever would have me because I did not feel worthy. F that. I feel good now, and I spend my time and energy with people who add to my life in a positive way, and more importantly I don’t spend my time trying to make ppl like me.
Not sure. I haven’t tried Loosid’s dating service.
What’s that?
I like what you said about recovery not being your lifestyle.I don’t think it is any one’s life style.this is any one’s choice.do it or not . It take a lot of time.some times years.with we the people it will be harder without people.no friends at all .
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