I've been sober since December 2024 and have been struggling with my mental health, emotionally exhausted, and a lot of stress this year. I've been fighting for my happiness, love, and the future. And for my mom, I am doing this to fight for my life. I learned that when my mom passed away last month on June 21 after a battle with cancer, I felt completely different and so lost. But I realized that she gave me a lot of good life and taught me everything so I can survive on my own. I don't touch alcohol since my mom passed away and keep myself busy by cleaning the house, doing a lot of errands, and keeping my mom’s car shiny as a beautiful. I’m so proud of myself for not letting myself down. My mom did lift me into strength, light, and hope for future. I’m pretty sure my mom would be so proud of me.
Again, I’m so proud to be a sober af! Mom, I did it. 
I wish I had useful advice to help you but I suck with coping mechanisms. I do want to say though that your mom would be very proud of you for staying sober. Keep up the awesome work!
She is so proud of you! So am I. Keep staying sober it will get easier with time. Grief is a hard one. I lost my baby at 3 and half months old 39 years ago, and I still grieve.
Not would be, she DEFINITELY IS! You are Strong​:muscle:t2: and I hope you've given yourself a pat on the back. You deserve it. You went through what was, I'm sure a Devasting Loss and you chose to stay Strong and Fight through it, no substances. You're Awesome! 
Also I'm sorry about the mental health issues you have going on. I feel you on that. I think I'm going to try and find a therapist/ psychiatrist/psychologist to talk to and maybe get some meds to help out. If you haven't tried that, maybe you should. It's nice to get everything out once in a while and if you're not against taking meds to stabilize whatever issues you have, you could try that as well. It's worth it if it works, yanno. Even just talking. I truly hope you get past it because mental health issues suck! 
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9 stages, brother. I list my mother 10 years ago, and sometimes it feels like yesterday. One day at a time. Lean on your fellowship
Grief is tough.
You have to grieve and it takes a lot of time for a parent.
Remember to love you and forgive yourself and be kind to yourself
You won’t get over it. BUT you will get through it. Her memory will flare up and it will hurt; it will begin to hurt less over time.
It sounds like a crazy idea… I know. Growing through what you go through is the simplest way I am able to navigate the grief on my life.
So happy for you! 
Wow, thank you for sharing this with me.
Grief is something you learn to live with. It's very easy to run from it in various ways, though. Not a healthy coping mechanism, but it is one that is often used.
The healthiest, but not easiest way to work through your grief is to simply feel it. You'll have to eventually anyway. I've learned a lot after the loss of my dad, mom, husband, and son. I've learned to feel it in small pieces. Falling apart is not a bad thing, just make certain that you have a recovery family to help pick you back up. Cry. Shout. Get angry. Do what it takes to feel this loss. It's okay. You're mom deserves your tears, your joy, your passion, your hard work, and so do you. You can do this. Hugs and support to you.
I am proud of you too. And I too have lost my Mom, my best friend Jake and my husband last year and they were my support system. I'm going back to meetings and that is helping me a lot. I am reading my meditation books again and praying to my higher power to help guide me. I also journal especially when I'm feeling down and or irritated that way it doesn't turn to anger. But yeah we are here to help you stay sober and I'm glad you are here
I would suggest, feeling it, be in the moment with it. Honor her memory and after a time, move with the grief. Your mother wouldn't want you to mourn endlessly. Eventually with acceptance we, focus on the loss less and less. And for me, I believe my mother is still within reach in spirit.
Congratulations keep working it only gets better. One day at a time. Yesterday is history and tomorrow is a mystery live today!!
Grief comes in waves. It's true that even as years pass it still hits from time to time
Do you have a problem isolating that is my biggest problem. I go to meetings but not fit in I will talk to you if you need
5 years ago, my brother overdosed and died. Getting wrapped up in playing “what if we …” and “I should have …” I dug all the way down to rock bottom and sat there for 4 years.
That last year, I invested a lot of emotional time in accept I have some residual grief—a ton actually because I realized I avoided it all instead of working through the emotions. His memory still hits me fairly often but I am able to recognize the fun we had and the laughs we shared; I don’t dwell on the loss of those never happening again.
Idk. I wanted to give you a little anecdote into where I’m coming from with my comment and not put some generic words together. I pray for you and your family. 🫂
Wow usually you don't hear people that lost especially their mother so well you are an inspiration to others keep up the good work and yes she is proud of you!!