I accidently deleted my account yesterday after making a post

Struggling Help
#1

I accidently deleted my account yesterday after making a post about struggling with self sabotage in a healthy relationship I’ve been in for almost 9 months. I made my profile when I first got sober about 18 months ago. I was trying to remove the ‘dating’ side of my profile and I guess I ended up deleting the whole thing. 🥲

Anywho… the struggle still stands. To keep is brief, I often find myself looking for things to be wrong by making up scenerios in my head - taking out my insecurities and past traumas out on him. We dont communicate the best and when we try I feel like my feelings are invalid and as though he may be losing patience with me at this point which I can understand. I’m not yet healed and my unhealthy patterns/way of thinking seems to be taking its tole on him and I. He is not an addict but I do beleive he’s been as understanding and as patient as anyone possibly could be in this situation.

IAll in all, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am in desperate need of some sort of sober & social outlet; like minded individuals I can reach out to who undertand where I’m coming from and I hope to be able to be that space of support in return - some friends, I guess we could call it. :sweat_smile:

I’ve always kinda been a loner outside of my years spent in active addiction so I’m not really sure where to start. Figured this might be a step in the right direction.

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#2

Good to have you back and use this outlet all you can

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#3

My goal this time around is to build a sober life, rather than try and hang on and survive in society’s craziness. If you’re not opposed to AA, I highly recommend it. Admittedly, I had a hard time bonding when I was younger. Now that I’ve matured (lol), it’s a lot easier. That’s my suggestion to meet others. Perhaps others have some other ideas.

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#4

Exact same thing happened to me. I just got back on here a few weeks ago. I

#5

Welcome back! Yeah you’re in the right place. Self sabotage is common here😅. But so is recovery, growth, and love. I just try to remember that my ego is not my amigo! My addict mind/ego will ruin every bit of peace and happiness, if I let it. Booze & drugs fuel my addiction mind/ego.
Understand?
I’m here if you want to talk

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#7

Been here for sure. I think u will find more people here relate to this than you realize- I think you’re in the right place

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#8

Thanks for your honest share. Growth

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#9

I’m only on day 18, and looking for people to talk to as well. I’d be happy to help.

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#10

I know exactly what you mean. I pushed a relationship recently to the almost breaking point. To the point that we have to take a break from one another and I'm trying to get back to the trust in the understanding. I was over jealous acting a fool. So I know exactly where you're coming from keep your head up if you need to talk I'll be a friend. I will also add that I'm doing everything in my power to win her back. She says have patience and take time to work on myself because she is not going to be accused of things that she's not doing. So if you ever need to talk I'm open minded. And can relate

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#11

Its usually recommended to wait around 2 years sobriety before beginning any romantic relationship. Any stressor on a newly sober person is likely to cause relapse.

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#12

I learned that we have to focus on our healing and loving ourselves first before trying to love someone else. What is helping me get through I keep God first in everything I do praying for guidance and putting in the work. Always try to speak life into yourself everyday something positive. You have my support as well count me in the sober tribe....

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#13

Keep strong, find a meeting and connect with sober people in person! It helps so much.

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#14

I can see why 🥲

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#15

Feel free to hit me up if you need someone to talk with

#16

Self sabotages, deletes own account! Classic... :joy: