I allowed my nineteen year old come back into my

Struggling Help
#1

I allowed my nineteen year old come back into my home, five months ago. He is an alcoholic and abuses Molly. I don't know how to help him, but his behavior has been very triggering for me. I know I can get a peace order and get him out of my home, but it feels like I'd be giving up on him, and I know he's not a worthless cause. He just doesn't obey any of my rules. He's been speaking to me harshly with profanity and he's gotten physical with me is that in my face is a punch me in my nose 3 times he's pushed me down on the floor violently,at least twice but in the day he still my son, but this experience has been soul crushing. He's on house arrest and if I kick him out he'll go straight to jail :woman_shrugging:t4:

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#2

I am sorry you are going through that but to be brutally honest you would do him a service if you had him arrest because he would probably be forced into a rehab facility which is obviously the only way you would get him to go. There comes a time where you need tough love. The more you just don’t do anything the more he will do. Save his life now. Call police. Sorry but tough love sometimes is the only way. Good luck.

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#3

Oof. That is a lot to handle Kristina. Honestly I don't feel qualified or experienced enough to give any advice about this. However I watch videos from this master addiction counselor named amber on you tube. She puts out videos about this kind of stuff. Here is a link to one, and if you find it helpful scroll through her other videos. Lots of good stuff and her voice is really soothing. Her name on you tube is Put Down The Shovel

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#4

I needed to hear that, thank you. I certainly don't want to enable self destructive behavior. I just have so much guilt but I can't make it about me. I gotta do what's best for him......even if it's hard

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#5

Sorry if it appeared brutal but I honestly just watched a show this morning with almost the same scenario and that was the suggestion. I wish you well. Reach out if you want to chat.

#6

Thank you. I love all videos. Going to check this out too.

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#7

Sorry you are through all of that! As hard as it is, you have to remove him from your house. Its only going to get worse. It's tough being codependent, don't I know. God bless you. Praying for a good outcome for all.

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#8

Hey there. He needs to GO. Jail or not. Doesn’t mean you are giving up on him. He is 19 and an adult and needs to face consequences. Tough love time. Triggering you serves nobody. Your sobriety has to be the priority. Nothing good will come from having him stay with you until he gets his own act together… please be safe.

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#9

If he’s hitting mom than he needs jail

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#10

I’m so sorry to hear this!! I agree with what the others are saying. It’s time for tough love. You need to help him find his bottom!! He will understand one day and appreciate you for it!!!!!

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