I am 35 and living in a recovery house. I recently lost everything I had including my job, fiancé, apartment, dog, and car due to another relapse with drugs and my mental health took a turn for the worse. I pretty much destroyed everything I had. I’m feeling so much defeat and sadness due to losing my dog especially but I gave him to a good family friend. I just feel like a complete loser. I keep telling myself that this was just what I needed to be broken enough to recover this time. I’m trying to see the good in my situation, and trust that god has a plan for me and everything happens for a reason. Just struggling to find faith and hope right now.
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My time in a recovery house was a great time to reflect and reset. You will be better because of it and you will gain all of those things back in time.
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Oh wow. You’re in Philly too?
Fück the notion that "god has a plan for you". You're waiting for someone else to take control of your life. It's YOUR life. You got this. What's YOUR plan for YOUR life? You're in a great spot to get it all back and more, with hard work. Build your support system and grow from there. Eat well, get good sleep, hang out with others trying to stay clean/sober. Stop waiting on "Jesus to take the wheel". If he was going to, he would've done it before you lost everything.
You can do this.
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I am! South Philadelphia. Where are you??
Fishtown
It’s sound to me that your head is in the right place in regards to knowing what you have to do. Many of us struggle with faith. For me I was simply asked am “I” my own highest power. Clearly the answer has been no and that set me on a course to at least be willing which is all that is asked. You can move forward in AA on willingness alone. In a way it’s possible to “fake it till you make it”.
A therapist tries to help alter the way you think in the hopes that actions will follow. AA does the opposite. It’s about actions in the moment, today, and if your even willing to follow the path they give you and live sobriety I promise you, your way of thinking will follow. Anyone who is willing to walk into AA and take the suggestions and work the steps will find that their higher power will meet them wherever they are just like AA will. It works if you work it and if you work it your highest power will appear even if it’s just the energy of the fellowship there to support and love you.
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I have to cordially completely disagree. Real freedom comes when you understand that there is a God you’re not Him, and you finally are willing to give over your life to Him. That’s why there’s a difference between being clean and sober and healing.
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I'm an atheist and I couldn't feel more free.
So, yeah. Suck on that.
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Ashlyn,
I am 30 years old and finally have some form of stability after loosing everything because of my addictions and unfortunately the love of my life lost her life , so I can relate to the pain you are in and the self doubt and shame that may be in your head, know that all these thaughts are normal and don’t let them define you ! All good things in life take hard work and perseverance it’s not about if you fall it’s if you learn and get back up! You are a champion with a disease that has almost a higher fatality rate than cancer you should have pride in yourself !
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You will achieve amazing things and have a beautiful life don’t lose faith and keep pushing foreword!!! If you ever need words of encouragement shoot me a message !!! You go girl , god bless
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Amen to all of what you said! It’s a design for living that works 
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Then, why are you still so angry and bitter and mean?
Disagreeing with you doesn't make me mean. And im not angry or bitter.
People are dying out here and charlatans are still out here selling snake oil.
Stop telling people they need faith in God to get and stay sober. It's a lie.
For someone claiming Christians are trying to convert everyone you sure do promote the satanic temple a lot. Which is a religious organization actually. Tax exempt status and all. Maybe that's why you are so angry all the time. You made that organization your god. You don't understand that God gives us free will to follow him or not. Stop harassing ppl that don't believe the same as you. You sound like a juvenile outside hot topic.
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My only issue with the Bible beaters in recovery is that they tell people that Jesus is the only way to stay sober.
That's it. Believe what you want, but you cross lines when you tell someone the only way is your way. I have NEVER said my way was the way.
It's all about options. I'm sorry you can't see that, Captain America.
Again you throw insults, shows your ignorance and underlying refusal to be open. And it's not crossing a line if I say that. I'm not forcing anyone to believe what I believe. What's the difference between me saying that and you saying dont "for the notion ect" your saying don't believe that. You are unhappy and it's clearly because you are unwilling to be open to the salvation if Christ. You'd rather live in pain than be open to actual change. If not then every other comment you leave on this app wouldn't be bashing Christians. But then again you subscribe to the satanic temple, which in itself a religion. So your atheism goes out the window. I mean how can you have a satanic temple but God doesn't exist. Seems like they fooled you and you fell for it like tripping through an old door way. I can't change you. That's up-to you man.
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Recovery is a more like discovery and AA is recovery in actual change. If you want to jumpstart the process I would recommend 90 meetings in 90 days. Your only job is to heal.
I agree with you!!!
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Actually my way was and never will be the way. I pray every day for god to relieve me of the burden of self, which helps me to allow him to guide me. I want my will to align with gods will. If I relied solely on my will, I would still be drunk and ruining my life. And Jesus saved my life and gave me true freedom. That’s why I am a happy, positive person today. It shows that you are clearly an atheist since your comments are angry and harsh towards everyone who promotes Christ. Gods people are not angry, defensive, and filled with hate. You sound like you are. I will pray for you!
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