I am 75 days sober in an outpatient recovery program. My husband drinks and wants to continue hanging out with our drinking friends. He was gone 10 hours today day drinking with our friends. I chose not to go. He wasn’t drunk when he got home but I feel alone and unsupported by him.
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A few other married couples are having some issues that you may want to go see their posts. FYI might be some good to chat with.
I hope y’all can come to an understanding. Maybe counseling?
He probably feels same
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I hope you can find the support you need. Maybe couples therapy might help with healthy communication. And honest the hard truth might be you gotta distance yourself from all substances and people who use. You deserve sobriety and respect.
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Good job not going.
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One day at a time
Have a frank discussion with him about it. Don’t let it turn into a resentment. You have to set up some rules/boundaries.
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Sending hugs and prayers for you!
My husband has been in recovery 20+ years, he nicely asked me to remove liquor from the home and asked me to not drink. I always said that if I was lactose intolerant I'd still keep ice cream in the house. I feel awful now about it, but little did I know I was in active addiction myself. I was functioning but still hiding Booze around the house away from my husband and secretly drinking and didn't want to give up the "enjoyment" that came with drinking. This led me to my own path in recovery, realizing that I valued drinking over my relationship. Some couples can manage just fine, but I'm glad my husband stuck around as it took me a while to recognize my own addiction. Now we are both sober. However, the more he pushed recovery on me, the more I pushed it away. Everyone has to come to their own realization. He has to determine what is more important, a life without alcohol (at least right now while your early in recovery) or a life without his partner.
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Yes counseling indeed. Most of all you matter!! Remember that. Be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished. Self care is very important but also respecting your feelings are also valid good luck. Stay strong.
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Well said💜