I am a single mom of two teenage daughters and

Struggling Help
#1

I am a single mom of two teenage daughters and I was in active addiction for years and 2 years ago i went to jail and then treatment from there came home last year and relapsed a week max of being home and was home a month before going back to jail and then to another treatment center and i have now been home a month and an still sober so it's been a long time since i have been sober present and active in my daughters' lives so of course i have effected them big time so the part I'm struggling with is that my youngest daughter seems to not want to listen to me when i tell her to do something she won't do it and it's becoming overwhelming and frustrating i know things take time however i feel as if I'm at a dead end i don't knew what to do about it she doesn't want to open up and talk are there any mom's with advice their dad chooses to not be involved in their lives my mom had been taking care of my girls the last 3-5 years and is still the one looking after them

I may have worded things confusingly or not been clear enough so for clarification purposes I went to jail Feb 4,2025 then went to a treatment center (court ordered rehab) Match 6,2025 and came home Jan 28,2026 so I've been home for a month from the treatment center (rehab) and I've been sober for a year now my sobriety date is Feb 5,2025

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#2

Congratulations on one month clean!!

#3

Thanks for sharing, allot of communities have free case workers and a third party she may respond to better and with time open up. Congrats on one month and one day at a time and one moment in your recovery you will grow and keep striving to show love you will be surprised how miracles that take place when you loveself enough to let God show you a clearer path through people that have experience. Understand it helps them as much as it helps you letting growth in both of you. Be your best friend now and all your worries will vanish but do not try it Alone. Keep to the sober path and just one day at a time. Get to lots of meetings and if you can exercise also helped my nerves all of my recovery) Fredrick

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#4

We did great harm to our children. Be patient she processing and has been let down by you. I can say this I used with my daughter. 3 years clean we each others greatest supporter. I’m just now getting back into my son’s life and get to see my grandchildren. Keep up the great work. It takes time and are you working a recovery going to meetings. Show her thur action.

#5

Patience and more patience. People are angry with us. It takes consistent right action, absolute transparency, honesty and time. Oh and lots of forgiveness and compassion for them and ourselves.
I strongly suggest going to in person AA/NA meetings, getting sponsored and doing the 12 steps multiple times. If you do so, you will do much better much faster.
I’m here if you want to talk

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#6

Yes I do go to meetings