I am depressed. My cat went to the vet today. I found out she has so much more wrong. Again. I can not afford the things she needs. As usual. I am ashamed of it. My inability to provide for her. I had to do a gofundme last year for a surgery. Now she needs another one! I will not be doing more fundraisers. Shes a senior girl. She has always been sickly. Ever since I rescued her in 2016. I do not know what to do. I feel like a failure. Again. I am having issues with my NA home group again too and I feel angry. So many negative emotions…..sigh.
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That’s a lot to carry, I'm sorry. You’ve done so much for her, and I'm sure thats comforting to her. You're not a failure, at all. Try to give yourself some grace, you’re doing what you can. Sending you strength.
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That’s so tough. She’s had a good life and was so lucky to be rescued by you. You’re not a failure at all.
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Hello Heather It’s never good to see a friend like your cat go through such pain. I do recommend getting a plant that you like, i also recommend getting an easy growing plant. George made a valuable point she was so lucky to be rescued by you. Also Chrissy made a great point you’ve done so much for her. I’m sure you have been a wonderful friend to her and she will never forget you. I’m sure she thanked you every day for your kindness.
Many plants can help with mental health, including lavender, jasmine, chamomile, and rosemary. Houseplants can also improve air quality and create a more relaxing environment.
Heather, you are a hero! Not a failure. You stepped up and you actually care. In my book you’re a rockstar!
Regarding home group, acceptance is the key to peace. And you can consider expanding your horizons in other meetings.
I’m here if you want to talk
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Hey, Heather. Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry life is rough right now. You're handling a lot and giving your best. Give yourself tons of grace. Sending you a big hug!
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Thank you.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate it.
I’m trying too. Seems to be hardest for me.
It's hard for me, too. I became a widow/single mom to a 9 month old 2 years ago. While grieving, I had to be strong for my baby who doesn't understand death nor understand why her extremely present dad was absent suddenly, losing an income, balancing all the finances, cleaning, cooking, etc. alone was extremely difficult.
As a Christian, I cried to God often because I was overwhelmed. During prayer one day, God told me that I need to focus on what I was getting done vs. what I wasn't getting done. A minister at church came to me and said "you're a great mom. You've got to show yourself grace." I knew that was God reminding me.
Ever since I heard those words, my perspective of myself changed.
Heather, you do a lot daily. You're trying your best to care. Focus on that. You're more than enough.
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I wish you both comfort. You're a good mama!
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Hi Heather. We really need support in times like these. Maybe try some different meetings if you can. It sounds like you're an excellent cat mom and your little one is blessed to have you. Try to be grateful for all of the time you have together and always rely on God, our never changing, eternal source of hope🙏
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