I am feeling very sad this morning. I feel like life has passed me by and I missed out on much of it because of my drinking and the decisions I made. I could have been married, I could have married into a good family that was loving and functional. I could have had a husband.. I could have raised a child the traditional way sharing the joy of that.I feel a lack of family and friends and of belonging and am wondering if it is too late to change my path and have a life with more meaningful connections. I am 44 and feel sick with all the time I wasted. And then all of this makes me want to numb it and I struggle.
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Could a, should a, would a’s don’t keep you sober. The past is past. Can’t be changed. Yet the future is waiting and being sober will make that future bright. Just stay in today and look to the future. You’ve got a bright future and can do anything you want staying sober. Grab that sober ring and run with it.
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I try to count blessings. Wonderful son that is kind, smart and thriving, good job etc. I don't know how to shake the past. I think it holds me back and I waste more of my precious time. I don't understand how I seem to let this cycle happen so often.
Best step is forgive the past and the time. Make the moment now that you have count. You have a new chance sober that is truly a gift. It is amazing to have the opportunity of knowing the bad and really truly loving the new opportunities that await.
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Thank you for supporting words !
Thank you
Thank you for reassurance
You can start now! Find that guy and see what happens. Or have a kid and find that guy. No rules here
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Meetings meetings meeting.don’t go to meetings or get help. Nothing will chang.
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Exactly it's never too late....remember we have to get through our pain. And to the other side of it....it's then we are living
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Focus on the future, not the past. The past is there as a reminder, but it’s not where we should live. Get sober, learn how to live, forgive and accept yourself, this all happens by working the steps. Once you have these in place, you’ll start to see the 12 promises come true. It does happen.
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I am so sorry 
Remember you can not change the past but you can change the future. I have messed up a lot too. I want to get on the right track this time. Virtual hugs for you!
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I feel the same way
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I have walked in your shoes. You are not alone to this traumatized experience! The family of Loosid loves you! Grab an oar on our boat!!!
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I’m 44. I have 3 ex husbands, a 24 year old daughter and I awake up feeling like you do a lot. Stay strong, sober, and love yourself. You’re going to be ok. You’ll make friends in sobriety. I promise you that.
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