I am nursing a broken heart and I do not know how to move and take care of myself. I am struggling, I am crying every day and every hour. How can I keep from falling off the wagon.
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Prayer and exercise and helping yourself and helping others. 11 years sober here
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Why the broken heart?
Whatever the reason, it's not bad enough to drink. That's the big lie about all of it. Your head will tell you that you need to drink but it's a big lie.
If you drink, the relief will be very short-lived and when you wake up you will have more guilt to carry around and you will have to start all over again. And the wheel goes round and round and round.
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So sorry to hear you’re struggling. At times like this it’s hard to see the light, but you just have to have faith that you will be ok. The pain you feel today will slowly lift and you will feel well once again. Learning to go thru this process without numbing ourselves is a lesson we all must learn at certain times in our lives. Now is the time to double down on all the good work you’ve done to stay sober so far. You’re doing great by sharing your feelings with us. If you have a God or higher power of your understanding, now is a good time to use your prayer and meditation tools. If you go to meetings or have a sponsor, now is a time to use them. Hope you feel better soon
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Hi Marie, my wife left me and the kids years ago and I had been sober for over a year. Back then I was not doing AA. All I knew is I had to stay strong for them and some how I did. Years later I relapsed, probably because I was not part of a program.
Time will heal that heart and I know this doesn’t help the pain. One day that rainbow will appear.
By sharing that you are struggling and still trying
Gives me hope and helps me
Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I am not going to lose 463 days back
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Thank you for sharing that with me. I am doing my best to keep it together and move forward
Talk to other addicts, journal your thoughts, go to meetings
Remember that, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. However drugs and alcohol can definitely kill you!! And no one person should have that much power on you.
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Drinking or drugging will just make it worse when you sober up
Keep busy, organize your dresser drawer, files, kitchen drawers whatever you can.
Eat food, protein is best, stay away from junk food. Take a walk or jog each day. Just don’t drink or use no matter what. Get to as many meetings as you can. Talk about it with a friend or counselor.
This is what I did to make it thru.
I wish had friends and people I could talk to openly but I do not that is why I posted my feelings on this site. Matt, thank you so much for all those suggestions, I wish I could do at least one of them today it would be a victory for me but I am laying down depressed and suppressed and unable to help myself for the moment but I will keep fighting.
If you have a higher power. Ask that power to help you. I was paralyzed by pain and sorrow as well. Keep asking for help and reaching out. It just sucks right now, I know it does. Ask for help and move forward. Even if you don’t want to.
I do have a Higher Power and I have been praying to Him for healing and forgiveness. I am praying constantly and asking God to heal me and allow me to move on.
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Go to a meeting and share about it. Find someone to talk to and share about it. But no matter what don’t pick up over it. It’s not worth it.
I found out yesterday my partner cheated on me. I’m completely sad and upset. But I trust and believe in my higher power and my program. I will get through this. You can too. Just don’t pick up. It really is that simple.
Thank you, I promise I will not pick up. I can tell you that I am truly sorry to hear that what you are going through with your partner. My partner did the same thing to me as well that’s one of the reasons that I am hurting and morning so much.
Reach out to fellowship if you built that. Get on a meeting. Zoom is perfect. Stay as strong as you can. This is no joke. I don’t know how long you have but feeling are all normal. Keep posting here. This group is amazing. One Day At a Time, sometimes a minute at a time.
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Page 67 AA BB
Also page 85 first full paragraph. It discusses the proper use of our will.
Thank you so much Nancy. Matt I will go look at that reference from the BB