I have a hard time forgiving my childrens dad … who chooses to use instead of choosing a better way of life. My boys always ask why their dad doesnt ecer come and see them. I don’t understand. I choose a better life because i came from a broken home and an addict as a dad. However i was blessed to see a strong , loving mother & God gave me a real father figure with my step father, yet cancer took him from us when i was 15.
How do i seperate the resemtment i held for my bio dad for so long / and my children’s dad …. I dont want to get into my emotions about it, because i know it will cause me to drink
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I would pray for him and pray for the best for him, meaning it and let your Higher Power handle the rest. Giving to someone that can and will handle it.
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Thank you. I have been praying for him and truly believing that God can and will use this for His good. I just. Give it to God but I always seem to want to take it back when my boys are upset
I know it’s hard to forgive someone who has hurt you in some way weather it be a significant other or a parent it hurts and it’s heavy I can understand what I’ve been trying to make work for me is let go there’s not any other way you have to forgive or you will carry it always your life and your way of living is much to precious don’t let that be your barrier enjoy being a mom in that you’ll find what you need from one mom in recovery to another ❤🩹 you have this 
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Learning how to let go and let God isn't easy. I've been there and picking things back up that let God have, has me going back in selfish thinking and behaving. I must, or it kills to return back to active addiction
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4th step it. If you can't differentiate, you may have to put it on paper. And you might find they're not all that different in some of the treatment. Whatever you find, you'll have to make a choice on how to forgive and move forward. Forgivness is for you..not the other person.. And to forgive doesn't mean they get to be in your life or that they're off the hook. It just means you're letting yourself out of the unforgivness cage so that you can be free
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Pray for him always. Know God is in control. Focus on your challenges.
All the best to you.
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I appreciate your post. We are not alone in this process. Handing it over to a power greater than myself has given me some relief and the ability to move on. No matter what I do i have not been able to save my kids dad from his own disease. When I pray for him it helps me to trust my HP. We are powerless over others and it only hinders our recovery. Keep doing what you’re doing cause your children need you! It gets easier stay strong
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Melissa, it can certainly be a challenge to forgive. However, I have learned to go to the root cause of people’s behavior and sickness. I try to see & understand what they’ve experienced from their childhood or their past. Usually I can learn why they are the way they are. I then can start to have some sympathy which leads me to forgive.
My part is to practice this line of thought.
Forgiveness alleviates the toxicity and allows us to be better.
I hope this helps🙏
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Thank you
Thank you so much, to will do this and work it well.
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Thank you for the reminder that I am not alone in this. Writing things down and giving it to God is a huge help
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God doesn't take care of your problems. You have resolve them. You need tofind it in you to move forward. Just be honest with your kids . Meet your ex at a coffee shop. . Look him in his eyes. Tell him you forgive him. It's not easy. I did it to my ex. It sucks he is not a reliable person and a good parent. But you need to move on with your life. Just keep being a awesome mom and being there for your kids.