I am struggling with dealing with the consequences from drinking. I have given up my freedom and independence to do anything. For an entire year I will be under a microscope in everything I do. However, IF I wanted to drink, I am scared straight now. 
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Sounds like you are being incarcerated for a year?? What’s up??
No. I just spent 3 days in jail. But now I have. Year probation. And I’m already finding my life is not my own. It’s hard to not get down about it. But it reminds me how good my life WAS.
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Probation isn't fun, but it's not the end of the road. I see a lot of folks talking about taking back one small thing at a time, and building in that way. There are times when the world and life seem awful and scary, but there are things we can do inside and out to make real progress, and to help others. Get strong and stay strong Lori you can get through this.
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A fireman doesn’t run into a burning building, he walks… you know why? Because rushing could be putting them into an even more dire situation. Think of the year as the building. You need to walk in and have a good idea of what is happening. As you have an idea you will become more at ease with the situation around you.
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Thank you. I know it could be much worse. After being around so many people that have been in the system though it seems people get revoked all the time.
This gives me something to consider. Thank you.
We’ll look at it this way…did you like being in jail??, I didn’t! Could have been a year in jail so a year of informal probation isn’t so bad! Don’t let your past define you, live in the now! It gets better! Trust me:call_me_hand:t3:
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Probation is easy when you’re sober and not breaking laws I did 5years felony probation it was easy sober but failed probation before when I was not sober
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I originally related to this from the isolation that addiction brings with it alone. Then add the legal consequences on top of it to only exacerbate the isolation. However, in my current point of view a power greater than ourselves (court) is introducing us to a better way of life. A life that is not in the isolation of addiction/alcoholism.
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Getting our lives back takes time for sure. We didn't get this way overnight so we don't get better overnight. Sooner or later you are going to have a desire to drink again.
When that moment happens, don't believe the big fat lie, that this time, everything will be okay because it never is, is it? Instead, I want you to play the scene all the way forward. What will happen if you pick up a drink? You will feel good for a short period of time but eventually you're going to be right back where you were before you picked up that drink.
You will have accomplished nothing and you will have to start all over. And on top of everything you will have more guilt that you have to live with because you believed the LIE.
I got sober and stayed sober by going to the rooms of Alcoholics anonymous. I got a sponsor and did what he and the rest of the members suggested. He helped me through the 12 steps and eventually the obsession to drink was lifted.
Life really does get better one day at a time. Don't quit before the miracle.
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I definitely keep doing the next right thing….and whatever my sponsor tells me to.
I really appreciate your encouragement
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Eh, I was on probation for two years. As long as you go to the classes or meetings they make you go to and pee clear then you’ll be fine.
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I think it really hit me when they told me I can’t go out of state (45 min drive) to go school shopping . The reason for going out of state is for tax free shopping day. Irrelevant. I have to go back to being a child asking for permission to live my life. It just sucks.
Just remember we to it to us.then we realize we have to make a change.
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Start exercising everyday
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I've been there. 2 years of probation and it was tough. You'll make it. Just jump through the hoops 1 day at a time
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I have started working out again. That has been very helpful
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Hi, Lori. Rooting for you.
These are not empty words…not the exact situation while lemme just relay, relating.
You are right. It sucks.
While right, rooting for you.
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Looking back in regards to the consequences of my drinking, I wish that I had practiced more self compassion which I am working on as I type this.
I do not believe - make that know intrinsically that not a single one of us here came into this world “ wanting “ to be addicts. We did not have the tools before to take on this disease. I believe my point is that I am wishing for you-peace and self-compassion, Lori.
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