I am struggling with how to deal with my feelings.I'm

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#21

Im seeing that I can't help her if she isn't ready, thank you I'm going to move on for the time being. If God sees it to be different in the future then I will cross that bridge when I get there. My sobriety has to come foremost or I will lose everything I have worked for.

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#22

Harmony I'm just over 5 months clean you can check out my sobriety counter. I don't have anything to prove to you I just thought you aught to know. I'm all for honesty open-mindedness and willingness.

#23

My apologies if I offended you. Clean isn’t sobriety. You are absolutely right you don’t have anything to prove to me. God can’t change your outcome, it has to come from you first. In the program you must have learned that you save yourself first. You can’t help someone if you constantly give them (significant others)the oxygen. You may want sobriety/clean time but you have to commit first. Do you go to meetings?

#24

I go to meetings I think I.I'm going to start reaching out and making new friends now thank you Harmony

#25

The truth is you are in need of a program . You are at this point enabling and thinking you have some control. You don’t. You need to get to a hospital and get medical treatment. Ronald, just go to the hospital. Detox .

#26

You think? Dam… honestly I think you’re bullshitting.

#27

Thank you I've just finished a three month program and I am living in a 1 year transitional housing program where I am tested frequently and kept accountable.

#28

I have no reason to bullshit why don't you work your program instead of judging mine I am only sharing because it helps to hear things from others even when I hear the obvious

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#29

Liquor on her breath on Valentines day. Broke my heart. She had to go. Stronger for it. Why is it so easy to love a darn liar? Is it because I’m bad? Nope. But my momma was. Still is. And that’s where it lives. If you got toxic love, you’re gonna seek toxic love. And you’re gonna give toxic love. But that heart is yours now. And you gotta clean it out if you want something different. What you got on your hands is a forgettable woman. What I mean by that is once you start doing your inner work and cleaning that old toxic rotten mud out, you’ll forget all about her. And you’ll instantly realize you were selling yourself short the whole time. I could be wrong, but it won’t matter if I am. Just do your work. If you don’t know what that means, go find out. Believe me it is worth it.

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#30

Only thing we can control in this lifetime is our actions. Hope for the best but expect the worst and you'll save some of your heartache and disappointment.

#31

Gotcha

#32

You’re absolutely right. I didn’t know you were in a transitional house. Or that you did a three month program.Honestly, that’s really admirable. I’m sorry you had to make a harsh decision. I know how I felt. There were days I didn’t want to be without, my husband or alcohol. Moving forward is the right thing to do but everyday felt like a cement block attached to every step. I didn’t feel like I had a choice, but I was given one. I never imagined my life beyond day to day. I didn’t care. I moved to a different part of B.C and went into a recovery centre. I checked myself in but had huge support from family. Not from my husband.I support you . My 2 year sobriety date is April 11.

#33

Congrats keep your foot on the :fuelpump: gas

#34

Right on

#35

And thank you for your support now harmony I thought you were testing me to see if I could handle your comments without resenting you. I'm glad we are on the same page now and I don't have any grudges I love everyone in recovery,we are all our own family in a way . That's how I think of all you guys and gals on loosid lol. My family still isn't ready to talk to me so I have everyone on loosid.