I am struggling with how to deal with my feelings.I'm trying to keep my relationship going with bounries, so I haven't beem spending that much time with my girlfriend because she is still using and when we do spend time together we end up getting into a fight. She sais she will go to treatment and keeps putting it off. Whenever I separate from her cus I don't wa t to fight she keeps accusing me of cheating on her. I'm at my wit's end and ready to say treatment or no more us,I can't be around her and she thinks all I care about is me and the truth is I care about me more than I care about her right now. Am I doing the right thing ? Please give me some feedback , I'm not cheating I just hate seeing her this way anymore.
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Unfortunately Ronald she has to be the one to accept your choice of bettering your self your not wrong for doing what you know has to be done she will have to accept your choices
Hi Ronald
This was/is my experience. It was suggested I put my sole attention on my sobriety,(higher power,steps,sponsor, and meetings). That’s my path now!!! If the other person wants to follow, we have something in common. If they don’t, I don’t want what is common. If it’s meant to be, it will happen, and if it’s not meant to be, absolutely nothing I can do to make it happen.
Sobriety comes first, or everything perishes!!!
God has your absolute best at heart!!!
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I know that but it is just so very hard as I think I do love her so much. I will continue to do what my gut is telling me to do however hard that may be.
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Thank you kris and I will continue to do what so many people in my new community are advising. I will prey for her and maybe someday she will get help as well and then maybe things could be different. I know we are in two different worlds right now. I love her and hope she will realize it someday,but if not I will accept it to. I. On a new chapter and I'm not going to jeopardize it.
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100% correct. You need to tend to your own sobriety first.
“Treatment or no more us” - many relationships have to end for a person to get and stay sober - I had to leave my marriage - not due to lack of love but I was dying and he wouldn’t, couldn’t stop - I’m not one of those people who can be any where near it - life or death choices
Your sobriety is your absolute 10000% priority right now. I’m really proud of you, you’ve got this!!! Stay away (as much as you can) from the people you used to use with no matter who they are. My experience was that they will always want you to join them in their addiction! YOU’VE GOT THIS​:pray:t2:
Yes you're doing the right thing. You have to put you first at this time. Sobriety is everything, when she's ready she'll understand, for now there's nothing you can do but take care of you and set boundaries
You have to work on you before you can even begin to be in a relationship. You are number one and this is a huge connection in sobriety.
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Im trying thank you
I know and thank you for your support
Im going to dowhat I have to do to keep my sobriety no matter what or I know I will lose everything again.I am so grateful for my pillars here on loosid I can't thank everyone enough 
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Thank you
Thank you thank you for sharing
Ronald tough decisions need to be made in sobriety…. I hope your GF seeks help when she is ready