I am struggling with losing everything in my life and

Struggling Help
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I am struggling with losing everything in my life and that I am alone dealing with this I am forever broken I have failed in life. I lost my wife I lost my kids.(I gave them up) and now I have to live with her being with someone else I have to live with another man being in my kids life. For I am nothing. I never deserved her I will be alone from here on out and I must learn to live with that now.

O Lord, God of my salvation, I have cried out day and night before You. Let my prayer come before You; Incline your ear to my cry. For my soul is full of troubles, And my life draws near to the grave. I am counted with those who go down to the pit; I am like a man who has no strength. Psalm 88: 1-4

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#2

Your not dealing w it alone if your in the Bible...keep praying...he hears your prayers....If GODS for us ..who can be against us? Rock on!

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#3

You’re not alone in this. Many of us have been in the same situation. You are making huge changes and they are life changing and saving. The kids are your blood and lifeline. Never back down and never give up. You have to boost your levels after losing your oxytocin, eat healthy, hit the gym, go on hikes, self improvement. Otherwise you’ll just dangle on the hook.

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#4

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through through, but this is just the situation right now. Can you imagine a future where you’re healthy and happy, your kids are back in your life and you’re making up for lost time and new amazing memories with them? The future can be anything you want it to be, and if you turn your feeling of defeat into an invincible motivation, you’ll be unstoppable! The only thing that will prevent you moving forward to your future is giving up; as long as you keep going you’ll get there! We are all pulling for you!

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#5

Some really amazing support here and why I love LOOSID.
If it helps at all, many of us know that mix of guilt, regret, and shame. You’re not alone in that. It can feel like it will swallow you whole, especially when family stuff is involved.

Your kids are still your kids. No one can take that from you. No matter what has happened, you are still their dad. What you do from here matters, and it can still shape their lives.

Right now the work is one day at a time. Take care of yourself, stay sober today, get to know who you are again, what you want your life to look like, and what kind of father you want to be. That’s not selfish. That’s how you show up for them.

If faith is part of your life, lean on it. A lot of us have learned that when we fall, the only direction left is to stand back up and try again. You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to keep going.

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#6

Donald, you’re not alone. Redemption is yours if you choose it to be. Many of us recovering addict alcoholics face similar situations. I’ve seen many people rectify their mistakes and create wonderful lives. Often times better than they could’ve imagined.
The AA program is an amazing set of tools that can be used to recreate a new you, a better you.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions.