I been clean for a couple months was n a

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#1

I been clean for a couple months was n a toxic relationship over past few years w a narcissist I. Trying to break that habit also n e body got advice

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#2

I'm going to family violence counseling and it is helping tremendously. She suggested I stay like for at least a year do learn to love myself for a change

#3

She suggested I Stay single* for a year

#4

Good advice. You’re doing the right thing talking about it and getting it out there. Now comes the work learning yourself and staying clean. Hope you do good. Hang in there. Gonna get lots better.

#5

I’ve been around since 1989, and the suggestion of no dating the first year is still a thing. It’s only a suggestion, but it makes a lot of sense. We have a hard enough time dealing with our own stuff. Navigating the ups and downs of a relationship does make it very complicated. It’s just a suggestion though. Whatever you do, be sure to make your sobriety the top priority :pray::peace_symbol:

#6

Welcome. It took me 2 years to finally get out of my toxic relationship. That was 2 years ago. I was with him for 5 years. I think to myself why did I stay that long. Well to tell you the truth my friends and family wanted me to break from him. But I had to make that decision for myself. It was the second best decision I have ever made. Recovery is my first. I have learned so much about myself. To think I believe I deserved his b.s. I was drunk out of my mind the first time I went out with him. Lol. I fell in love with who I thought he was. It was such a sick relationship. I can tell you how I am happy and I finally have peace. Wouldn’t trade this for a million. You have nothing but good things ahead of you. You deserve to be happy

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#7

I was married to a narcissist. Leaving almost killed me Are you out? There is a good fb support group. Can get you the name if you like I found a coach who helped a lot But was expensive. No help from counselors.

#8

Just keep your head high and keep moving forward forget the past time will heal everything

#9

aa meetings for a year .

#10

I was married to a narcissist for 25 years .. feel your pain .. I heard someone say once : after a year in recovery get a plant , if it stays alive for a year then get a pet , if you still have the pet after that year your ready for a healthy relationship!