I broke a promise to my husband about not drinking

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I broke a promise to my husband about not drinking and I feel immense guilt over it. I’ve had many problems over the past few years with alcohol and dealing with anxiety and he’s been there through it all. This time I’m keeping the secret to myself. To be my own change. Is that wrong?

#2

Honesty and facing our shortcomings is what helps us move forward. by facing them head on is the only way to release the power that guilt and resentment can have over future growth

#3

I do the same. I relapse, I have to hide it. I was over 1 year sober. I moved to a different state for my job. Cuz of Covid, I work from home. I sometimes will drink my whole work day while I work. I will get sober again, I know the thought of having no guilt, no lying, not hiding made me feel good. I am using my moms heart surgery as a reason to drink. It’s a battle every day

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#4

Can you maybe try and get to a meeting? I know you don’t want to drink, you got this!

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#5

I'm not sure if it's wrong or right. We all did it. Odds are he already suspects. Get to a meeting and talk to him. Show him you are really trying. My prayers and wishes are with you. You can do this

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#7

Oh my god I’m so sorry. Well I’m here for you if you need someone to talk to. Thank you for opening up.

#8

Ceymoe, I am sorry to hear of your Mom. It will all work out and she will be fine. My older brother made and so did my closest friend. So I know Mom will to. Please get rid of the bottle it's not going to help. My prayers are with you both

#9

Yes I understand I promised my bf I wouldn't drink and snuck around all week. Was disgusted in myself. Am working hard on day 6 to feel back to normal so I can look ahead and keep my new promise to him.

#10
  1. Taking a moral inventory of ourselves.
  2. Then telling ourselves, God and another human the exact nature of our wrong doings.
    We make amends to those we’ve hurt but
    If telling him would injure them or others. We do tell them but we do tell another human our mistakes or defects of character.

For me it’s not about saying the change it’s living the change. People don’t want to hear what we are going to do instead they want to see what we are doing. Only we can make the difference.

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