I can go mon-thurs without a drink (some weeks anyway)

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#1

I can go mon-thurs without a drink (some weeks anyway) Then Friday hits and I go directly to the liquor store like I have no choice in the matter. I have gone a week without alcohol but it's been a while. I would like to do a month. But those Fridays....... then the whole weekend is gone and I get nothing done and spend all my money. I do okay for a while then just fall off. I can't afford therapy I'm broke and in debt. Soooo...... here I am.

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#2

I am 6 months sober as of yesterday & I did it with the help of Annie Grace. I borrowed her book from the library. It’s called This Naked Mind. She also has a book called The 30 Day Alcohol Experiment. They are both very good & enlightening. She just recently co-wrote a book about giving up nicotine.
After reading This Naked Mind I signed up for her course called The PATH. It was excellent & I never looked back!!!
Since you are “broke”, I suggest you borrow it from the library or hoopla.
Her app is free. The free app is called This Naked Mind Companion App. She also has a podcast & free videos on YouTube. Good luck!!!

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#3

Welcome home that’s where recovery starts , reaching out to others… One day at a time. Journal your thoughts :thought_balloon:. Find a meeting get a sponsor work the steps and that time in your head will focus on positive thoughts. Good luck here if you need me :hugs:

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#4

Thanks a lot. I have heard of those books, just have never checked them out. I will. Booze has ruined my finances.

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#5

One day and one step at a time. If you're drinking Friday through Sunday right now focus on Friday. Don't worry about a month from now as you're immediately setting unfair expectations on yourself. Failure meeting those expectations often causes more harm than good.

When Friday rolls around, try to get through Friday. If you don't, try again next Friday. Once you have Friday down, work on Saturday. If you fail, make sure you don't go back to square one. Even if you keep drinking Saturday and Sunday for a month it's better than Friday Saturday and Sunday. When you get Friday and Saturday down you can focus on Sunday.

Again, if you have obtainable goals you can continue to stretch the obtainable. I can bet everyone in here has "failed" many many times.

Thomas Edison conducted 1000 failed experiments. You don't hear about the failures because the 1,001st was the lightbulb. Go find that lightbulb.

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#6

I wondered if maybe I was setting too high of an expectation for myself. I didn't drink last night and felt so good about it today. I will try to remind myself of that throughout the week. I had been drinking both Friday and Saturday night for a few weekends now. I would like to wake up this Saturday not hung over. That will be my goal this week. Thanks

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#7

Go to some AA meetings bro there free get some sober people around you and sober contacts but definitely hit some AA meetings please :pray:t4: they will help

#8

It's great to be sober on the weekends. I wasted so many days hungover. AA is like therapy that doesn't cost money...it's not free but no $ required. I tried to quit on my own for years and could only do a few weeks. When I went to AA finally I was like why did I wait so long?

#9

AA is free and always open! Check them out Mitchell! You posting on here is a great first step

#10

I'm the same. I find I do better if I make definite plans for something I want to do Saturday morning like a long hike that I don't want to do hungover. I try to make sober plans with sober friends

#11

Most rehab centers are state funded? If you have insurance or not they will work with you. Good luck

#12

It sounds like you've tried in vain to control your drinking.
My recommendation is that you find a place to go to AA meetings, go to 90 meetings in 90 days and at that time if you don't feel that you are one of us, we will refund your misery.

#13

Crossroads in phoenix AZ saved my life bro

#14

I can relate to every single thing you said man. I was stuck in the same loop for years and am still dealing with the aftermath in some respects. There’s plenty of advice and help out there so I just want to say you can overcome this, even though it may not feel like it at times.

#15

Sounds like AA would do you good man. Check out their app. Its free to attend. I went into an IOP, but its structured like AA. I was the same way. But being sober on weekends gets easier with support. Good luck bro

#16

Thank you all. I will try it.