I cant seem to make lasting connections. I know a

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#1

I cant seem to make lasting connections. I know a lot people but cant find my tribe in soberity.

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#2

I feel the same way

#3

I attempted to go to 90 different AA/NA meetings in 90 days. I found the meetings and people I really enjoyed and resonated with for every day and night of the week. Then I kept going to those particular meetings. I found many of “my tribes”. Sobriety was never lonely or boring again😊

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#4

Yes, what Danny said. Keep going to different meetings until you find a couple you like and your disease hates then stay close to them!

Remember you are choosing different now then you did in addiction.

Also each group is there for you they are all your groups if they are AA.

You count and you get a vote at business meeting to put things on an agenda your concerned about etc.

Keep going it your decision to save your life at one of those groups will come clear!

Happy Hunting! Every group you go to is one closer to the one that the powers that be have already claimed for You!

Ron
8:9:79 sobriety date

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#5

Have you tried Zoom AA?

There are thousands of online meetings. It's in every major city,, and some meetings are hybrid.

I met some good people and some weirdos

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#6

I’m having the same problem

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#7

I'll second that, once I discovered Zoom meetings I could attend them whenever and wherever I wanted. My family and home group is a zoom community.

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#8

Me too!

#9

Where do you live Amber? I’m a female also looking for some friendship. I live in Vancouver.

#10

Ya, I’m pretty sure this is difficult for many of us. Socializing sober just doesn’t come naturally, part of why I drank and used drugs in the first place. After many years in addiction the key for me is persistence, like others said many meetings, get involved and don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Therapy, both individual and group has been vital for me as well. Helpful for sorting some of the noise in your head. The more exposure you you have in environments with people with similar issues the more likely you are to run into people you relate with and be able to find your people

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#11

Same!!! I’m here if anything 🫶🏽

#12

I always wind up w this same issue. I try and do what everyone else seems to be doing, but I just don't feel it. Or not w as many? Idk.....

#13

I'm glad to meet you.

#14

At times we all struggle with starting over in friendships and relationships. Remember not everyone is for you, speak up about your feelings at meeting you'll be surprised on how many people feel the same way. Form a group activity and tell everyone about it, 1 good egg will certainly be in the dozen :joy::rofl::grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes::crazy_face:

#15

I was always anti zoom… for no real reason! Guess what they’re fantastic and I can go to Hawaii several times a week!. Imagine a pig-headed AA! Now a convert. A zoom a day keeps the Jack away…sd: 10/16/2004

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#16

Seek God and your tribe will appear

#17

I feel the same way. I have my same best friend. As I get invited to more sober events, I will continue to say yes.
Eventually, the tribe will come.

#18

I wind up that issue

#19

@sorceryserenity437015 Based on the responses to your post... I think you found your tribe.