Been sober a month, no cravings after the horrible detox which my wife administered with me. My sobriety has been going great.
Except she is drinking more now then ever. Getting belligerents night, creating fights by end of each night so I just go to bed… very early.
Talking to her about drinking, either it’s me, family, counselors has only triggered her problems worse… she was traumatized somehow from past experience so I understand and don’t bring it up. Just pray today will be a new day.
I think she resents me because I was able to stop and she can’t. In the past we drank together, often fighting. I regret many things, no excuses for stuff I’ve said, but I’m sober now. Her cycle continues as if we are both still drunk fighting. It’s overwhelming but she is my bride, she took care of me and now I need to somehow take care of her while focusing on myself and sobriety. Tough.
Even when I was drinking, all I wanted was to be in love with my wife, like we used to be. Still do. That’s what I argued about but always turned into something else of course lol, after a decade of bad habits in my relationship, not all bad, just the alcohol and fighting, this is one heck of a cycle to break.