I don’t want to take my time with the steps. I’m tired of trying to do the work and being told by someone else to take my time and don’t rush. Did Bill Wilson wait? NO, HE DID NOT! I’m desperate to stop drinking. I want to be able to help someone too.
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I will say that the steps are the best way to stop drinking and feel better. However, I think you should work them when you are ready. Maybe your sponsor isn’t the best match for you…?
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Just go to meetings, hang out with some sober people and don't drink. Don't even trip on the steps right now.
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I was always told there’s no wrong way to work the steps, as long as you work them! The first time I work the steps with a group; all 12 steps in six weeks. Do what’s best for you.
Have you read the big book of AA yet? That’s a great way to start. I as a sponcor have my Sponcee’s read the big book then the 12/12 and start on the steps on a pace that is thorough but moves them through from start to finish. Keeping in the literature will help stay sober also
Steps and good order aren't the only way. Stop with the steps, and start with the people. Those books are old and have done as much harm as good. But you need that group.
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Stop.
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Dont respond to me taylor pleas... not your subject be quiet and listen... this IS NzoT About yiu
I'm taking my time with the steps, but find reading the 12 and 12 while doing them to be helpful.
I wouldn't really concern yourself with Bill's timeline. He went through a lot of trial and error and had been sober for quite for many years before developing the steps.
For a while it was just the fellowship.
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There is a big difference in working the steps and rushing though them. Getting busy and working them is one thing. Rushing through them with some random Internet dude in 10 minutes? Gimme a break. If this is(and it IS) about life and death, then blasting through it hastily kind of makes a mockery, cheapens the process. Like those a$$hole mountain climbers who pay Sherpas to do everything. The process is important, not merely completion.
Amanda, you can start helping people immediately. You can come to a meeting 15 minutes before someone else who is brand new and show them where the coffee is, talk to them about being nervous etc and there you go, you probably just helped someone feel more comfortable and hopefully come back again.
"Help" doesn't always appear to be a giant gesture, but often it is.
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OM. Gosh… stop!
Quit asking newbies to contact you,,, it’s wrong and just weird!
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Thank you!
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FIRST please, Ignore the dudes on here trolling for women!
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