I don't know how much longer I can do this. I feel so lonely even with friends and family in town. But at the same time I don't want to see anyone STILL! I posted months ago how I was having this issue and I still don't want to see my friends.
I try to make connections online and I still struggle. I cry so much because I don't know what to do with myself and I just really don't see the point of any of it.
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I been there and felt like they will always see a failure in me… I just start finding things to distract myself in the emptiness. I do the gym I feel like that makes me feel
Good and the sauna and painting
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I’m coming up on 1 year and still feel so out of sorts. I totally get what you’re feeling. I’m lonely but don’t want to be with anyone. It’s a struggle. I just keep reminding myself that I never want to GET sober again so I choose to STAY sober and figure the rest out as it comes
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I started feeling a little more social around a yr sober, but don't go out of my way to see anybody. My ideal nite is working on a project by myself, can be lonely tho
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I’m 19 months and it’s haaaaard work I posted a lil bit ago …” I know it’s lonely but dang”. One foot in front of the other even if they’re dragging - I tell myself with one eye closed
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I don’t know if that was a positive comment or not. One day at a time - slowly but surely -progress not perfection. My cravings have gotten less so that’s good. If that helps. 
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Feelings will pass, just don't drink. Reach out to your sponsor and start working some steps with a pen and paper. Pray. This too shall pass.
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How often are you going to meetings? In person.
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I’ll pray for you!
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Steven, ever talk to a therapist? Maybe talking to someone would help? I eventually let down my guard, and speak with someone. It helps that it’s a friendly, but professional conversation that feels comfortable opening up in. Maybe give it a shot?
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Hi Steven, yes.
All of this can s - c k…
While drinking and / or using make everything worse…I speak for myself.
While many others will agree.
I have found that most humans, around too many of them…I start feeling lonely.
It can be lonely…while I would rather remain sober than numb my feelings and operate the way the majority of this planet is operating.
Unconsciously.
On an unconscious level.
You are not alone in your feelings.
Keep reaching out and looking up tools and resources.
Wishing you all the best…and PEACE!
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Lonely is tough. For me it was worse when I was active. The promise of the fellow ship I crave will happen came true. It took time and I had to reach out and make an effort. Feel free to add me on FB. Are you able to make in person meetings or only online? Some zoom meetings have feeling on zoom after the meeting let me know if you are interested in the zoom ids for those zoom AA meetings with fellowship.
I’m 5 months clean and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s very lonely, but only when it hits me. I’ve gotten better at keeping myself busy but there is still a longing for someone to be there for me. I had hoped this app would help me meet others but it has become challenging. Not sure how we are supposed to add friends through this app, but I’m here if you need someone to talk to.
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Hey, yeah I have a therapist, but I had to switch recently for insurance reasons. So that was a significant loss for me because she was there from the beginning of sobriety. I am also going to see a psychologist this week for an evaluation.
I don't do AA, it isn't for me, but I do go to my alumni meetings once every couple weeks. It helps.
Haha yeah, I definitely don't want to GET sober again. Rehab is expensive.
It helps knowing others find it difficult as well, ty
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AA wasn’t for me either for a really long time. It works for me now.
Keep doing what’s working for you.
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In more ways than one!!!!!
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I don’t want to do the work again, it is too hard to do again hopefully I never have to. I don’t do aa either it’s just not my jam. I feel like a rebel saying that on here but DBT therapy helped me I haven’t went for a few months but am starting again in a few weeks that’s what has helped me. I wish I would have known about it immediately after I left treatment and the sober house for me it’s life changing. It’s taught me a lot about choices and mindset.